Would you understand please help me!

[Pinky1]

My Dad has looked after me and my 4 siblings after my mum walked out many years ago (without a word). He has always informed us (well in the begining)as to where my mum lived etc...But i seem to have an overwelming desire since having my children to contact my favourite aunt on mums side, although i dont wish to contact my mum.

As upon becoming a parent i cannot understand her actions but always loved my aunt and dont want to upset my Dad or Step Mom or put overwelmimg pressure on my aunt so am i best to leave it?

I dont understabd my desire to do this and love my Dad to the end of the earth and back, he has really given everything! x help me please i dont know what to do

Have you spoken to your Dad about this? I think maybe you need to test the water and see how he takes it and your Step Mom. Tell him you have no desire to see your Mum but would love to meet up with your Aunt again. I can't see why seeing your Aunt should be a problem. Now that you are a Mum yourself you already know that you could never do what your Mum did so it's not that you have a longing to see her.

Your Aunt has a place in your heart and just because she is related to your Mum does not mean that she is like her does it.

I would see how your Dad takes this and then maybe you will feel happier about what you do next.

Whatever it is best wishes.

Oracle

I have kind of mentioned it to my Dad in the past and he had her number for me as he knew we were close, but as his new wife is my childrens nan and always has been so she didnt want the intrusion so i stopped as i didnt want to cause probs for Dad.I know they argued about it through my brother so i stopped. The problem being my Dad is a sweetheart he loved my mum despite her constant filandering and he has been a constant support for all his children since she left never slagging her off. And i dont want at this stage to make it hard for him , my step mom or my own children. Hence why i need help !

Maybe your Step Mum is worried that your Dad did love your Mum even though she treat him badly. Maybe she is worried about herself if your Mum comes onto the scene again? But I don't know if this should stop you because really it has very little if anything to do with her. You could always sit her down and say that as far as you are concerned she is your childrens Nan and always will be but you would like to see your Mum again. If the need to see her again is strong it may not go away.

However the down side mya be that it will rock the boat for everyone and make waves. At the end of the day it depends on how much you really do want to see your Mum again? Your Dad sounds a lovely man and very loyal to your Mum as well as his children maybe it's best left at that. But it has to be your decision and not your Step Mum's. Also without being negative would your Mum be happy to se you?

Oracle