5y old DD self harms during tantrum. Normal or not?

[tiredpooky]

Hello DD always had lots tantrums, less frequent and briefer now but since 4y can self harm. Really upsets me. Dont think she can control it. Today, straight after school, 2y old brother wouldnt play with her, tantrum, screamed "i am going to bite my hand" and bites down hard on it. Turned out she was also starving....5 snacks later. Previously hit floor, scratches face leaving marks. I always encourage her to verbalise.
Anyway is this normal/common or unusual and should i be concerned?
I always tell her it upsets me to see her hurt herself and whilst being angry/sad is ok, she should try not to hurt herself or others.
Model behaviour at school
thanks

anyone?

I always used to bite my arm when I had a tantrum then take it out on my younger (but bigger) brother (even if it wasn't his fault) so he knew to run as soon as it happened. We ended up fine and he gave as good as he got. It never went further and I grew out of it. Bizarrely I found out years later than my mom used to do the same when she was young.

It's definitely something to keep an eye on and if it gets out of hand, speak to a professional, but it isn't that unusual and doesn't mean that they will have permanent issues surrounding it.

thanks x

My 5 year old hits her face and legs when she's having a tantrum

Hi DSS went through a short phase of this when he was at his DM house he got very very wound up had a massive temper tantrum. We have found walking away when the tantrum starts stops it a lot quicker and prevents the self harm

It sounds more like self-injurious behaviour - doing something damaging in the heat of the moment, usually through frustration - than self-harm, which iirc is more deliberate and often hidden. I don't mean to nit pick it's just that you'll get better results from a search by using the right term!

Look up Emotional Literacy (or ask at school, the TA's may have training) for fun play-based stuff you can do with her when she's calm to encourage her to recognise when she's hungry/sad/tired and label those feelings. It's not unusual afaik though, knowing what a feeling feels like and being able to describe it is a pretty hard thing to do!