SOOOO cross with DS1 - and DH is going to be livid when he gets in.........

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When we went to Zim in August we bought two beautiful Batiks - reallly big ones - cost us the equivalent of £10 - but that was after a lot of haggling.

Anyhow, DH has hung them up at home, with 3 small black screws holding them up at the top - and they're just 'loose' at the sides and bottom.

DS2 had already grabbed hold of the one downstairs and it had torn slightly where one of the screws was holding it up, but it was an accident - we both witnessed it - he nearly fell off the sofa and just grabbed out at anything! - and DH managed to 'hide' the damage.

This afternoon I told DS1 (who's 6 btw) that he could't have something. I was busy cooking dinner and he stomped off from the kitchen door to the living room and sat on the sofa in a sulk. A few minutes later I went in and saw that the batik was hanging off having been completely ripped on one of the top corners.

Asked the DS's who'd done it and DS1 said "me and DS2". Now the thing is DS2 had beeen playing near the kitchen door for AGES so was 99.99% certain that he had nothing to do with it. Explained to DS1 that I didn't want to be telling someone off if they hadn't done anything wrong and asked him again who'd done it. He then said "me".

Asked him why and his response "because you woulnd't let me have x"!

I'm so cross with him, that Batik is unreplaceable - can't just walk in a shop and get another one and I know DH is going to be furious.

sorry i dont know what one of those is, but i canimagine something so dear to you is very annoying to see it torn intentionally, but i think main issue about this is ds's temper and his lashing out cos he couldnt have something

you have my sympathies .i had a kind of similar thing the other week when my ds1 burnt our sofa with a lamp.
it's hard to know what to do. we had a no tv ban and no park ban and a very stern talk etc.

don't know what to say just-i know how you feel

i'd be tempted to take away some toys as well as privileges. either confiscate onto a high shelf or other) where he can see it but not get it, or even march him to a charity shop and give away a favourite toy. Sorry that you've lost such a treasured item.

they do seem very angry at this age my DS too. Its like they dont know what to do with themselves all this anger and its bubbling away. lashing out and Im afraid your precious posession ended up damaged. I would show him concequenses of his actions by taking away something he values.but I would also have a chat about what he can do when he feels like this at it might over spill in other areas of his life .I mean we or should I say I swear under my breath when Im annoyed so may be obviously not swearing but give him some skills to deal with this in the future .