how do u teach a 7 month old the poiletness/niceties etc?

[munz]

(think that's the right phrases)

anyhow the boy likes to slap down on things (ie his toys) also scratches, and pinches (althou granted not as much as when he first started at 6 months), now he's crawling about, he's after things he shouldn''t have - ie the sky box/phone line. also yesterday noticed he was trying to grab anopther lo's toy at the P&T group (I moved him away and said no it's not his toy) he wasn't being horrid, he just appears very inquisitive - I guess as everything's new there.

I took some of his toys and he was sharing those with the other babies there.

so far we've been moving him away from theings we don't want him to have and saying no play with this and giving him something of his to play with - althou 95% of the time he'll turnstaright back and go after the 'forbidden thing' and for the scratching/pinching we've been doing the whole 'aww you hurt mummy, no' and scrunching his hand a little (not enough to hurt him but enough to know it's not nice iycwim)

anything else I can do? is this just a stage they pass thru? I know i'm a worry wort, but after watching the super nanny I want to nip any such behaviour in the bud!

That was unconstructive and uncalled for, Stacey. Munz isn't a mean, horrible lady at all, and if you'd read her other posts on the thread (and elsewhere on the boards) you'd have realised that. Not agreeing with her is one thing; calling her names is quite another.

no that wasnt aimed at munz, read the post before mine, about the lady in the cafe, sorry that came out wrong didnt it!

munz im not being horrible to yoU!!!!!!!!!!

I understood you Stacey, it was clear from the previous post, don't worry!!

Sorry Stacey, I misunderstood who you were talking to. My apologies.

ooh wrinkley - thats awful, babies do scream - don't they?? lol.

don't worry abotu it stacey I knew what u were on about! lol.

I guess proof the no is working - I caughtt he little blighter trying to have a go at teh phone leads again (have told DH about this numerous times but am thinking quicker to do it myself, anyhow came in said 'no' not too firmly I might add, he stopped looked up and fair enough grinned but I guess at least he recongnised hte word??

ahy he seems to think my glasses are toys as well - althou with ears and noses.

CM - I do not to the hand scrunching as a first port of call, it's a no hand away, several times before taking his hand making a little fist nad holding it saying no - i'm hardly holding it. it's not as if I have him tightly grasped he can not move whilst shouting at him. (and tbh i've done it maybe twice in all, it's not something I do lightly)

ooh thanks WWB!

ooh misdee did u get your phones yet? (they should be with u hopefully)

yes, they arrived yesterday.

they are working well

My dd is now 8 months & is into everything when i says everything i mean everything when she is doing something which i would rather she was not doing like pulling the tv wires or trying to eat the curtains i just say No i say it in a stern voice, she has started to understand that maybe it is something she should not be doing but she does just look at me & has a big smile on her face, you can see she is thinking "now should i do that again" sometimes they really are cheeky little monkeys.

It is also good to remove them from what they are doing or even giving them a toy to play with then they forget what they were doing in the first place, to be honest don't worry to much your have your hands full when they get to about 2 years

hi munz seems only yesterday we were on the beanies thread.

DD2 is nearly 8 months as well and has no concept of no, TBH theres not much she can get at in the lounge as anything worth anything is on high shelves, been packed away etc due to DD1, your lovely lounge quickly become very sparse and child proof, they will only wreck it when they get older.

DD2 is an eater through and through, everything gets put in her mouth, if anyone holds her she tries to eat them as well, she will try and latch onto any part of your body she comes into contact with, she goes around in her walker actively looking for things to eat, side of the sofa, DD1s, the TV etc, she will pull you towards her for a chew I kid you not it's embarrassing. I just take away whatever she can't have and give her something she can have to stop her wailing. Remove and distract is our motto.

Since DS started grabbing dangerous things, pulling hair etc., we have removed either him or the thing, and said "no" kindly, or try to put it positively eg "Be gentle", "That hurts the cat, touch softly like this". Now he's 15mo I do say "no" more firmly, and sometimes with a very serious face on and look him in the eye, especially if he's repeatedly doing something like tormenting the cat - then I remove him.

But my policy is very much to do with natural consequences - eg. if you hurt the cat, we take you away because we want to protect the cat. I don't like the thought of punishment for its own sake or doing something to a baby's hand - he won't make the connnection; he'll just associate you with something unpleasant.

DS is now learning that some things aren't allowed and he knows what "No" means. However what he now does is looks at what he wants to touch (eg the TV buttons), looks at me, puts on a sly grin and does it anyway, then says "No" to save me the bother.

lol snowleopard

and its impossible to keep a straight face

I know NP, I'm constantly having to turn away so he doesn't see me smirking. He also does it with throwing food - holds it out over the edge of the highchair tray, looks me in the eye, grins, drops it, says "No". Sometimes I'm in the middle of doing my serious "no!" face and I just crack up.

lol@ snow - ah yes the dogs ears are another case! we're currently holding joey on our laps saying ' 'nicely' and actually stroking the dog with his hand iycwim, his current vibe with them thou is either ears/tail - poor dog is harrassed! lol.

sk - your second DD is v similar to Joey - don't matter what it is - table leg, nanna's tassles on her cusions (which poppy shouted at him for - not too please but understand why poppy did it)

scooby - ah yes, why do I get the feling this little boy will be a real pickle - into anything/everything! I can see him being like a tornado during the day and me watching the minutes go by till bed time - still I guess on the flip he loves having lots of cuddles!

lol @ snow!

my dd2 is 23 months and still does this

drops something and says "whoops mummy" laughing

i pick it up once then she immediately 'drops' it again

repeat 100 times

still cracks me up (and i cant resist her angelic innocent "it wasnt me")

glad you understood munz, i felt really bad after that that i offended you!

7 month old is a Baby.....they don't do things to be nasty or to manipulate or whatever....! just be nice to your Baby and be kind and your lil one will learn by example!