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My DS1 went mad for 10 minutes of madness .(not just a strop I don't think)

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hazelnuts · 18/09/2006 20:59

My DS1 went on a ten minutes of madness this evening. He was throwing things about. He ripped his school reading book up. (ripped half pages out) I took the book away and tried to stop him but he just went mad. Hitting out , kicking, trying to break toys. Every time I got one toy he just got another.He was shouting "i hate this", "I don't want this" It was things he was picking.I got him into the hall and talked to him, but he would not say anything, just "don't know" and "nothing"He stopped and calmed down. His brother and sister were crying so I went to them and calmed them down. Ds1 then started to put the toys away (a first) and everything was ok again. He seemed very tired after.

He went to bed ok, but he came in to me not that long ago and said sorry to me. We then had a cry and cuddles. Hes in bed now, sleeping.

I thought that I would post on here to see if anyone else has had anything like this happen to them. I know it has made me fell very tired tonight and I feel very upset by it all. I just hope he does not do it again.

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wrinklytum · 18/09/2006 21:32

Sorry, Hazlenuts dunno what to suggest(mine are both tiny) How old is your ds,have there been any big changes for him recently,starting school or suchlike???

NotQuiteCockney · 18/09/2006 21:36

Hmmm, my DS1 is nearly 5, and he's had a few tantrums lately, after not having had any before. The trigger for him was things not happening that he expected, and hunger. At least, that's what I think.

harrisey · 18/09/2006 21:52

hazelnuts - have just posted something very similar about my dd who did stuff like this this evening!
Dont know any answers but wanted you to knwo you are not alone.

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hazelnuts · 18/09/2006 21:55

Wrinklytum.NotQuiteCockney DS1 is 6 (7 in jan)He has had a very hard life. His dad left when he was 3 years old. and xp2 left nearly a year ago now. He did not get on with xp2 at very much at all. I have never seem him like he was tonight. His dad did not have him on saturday. I told him that his dad could not see him as he was at work.(His dad does not work at all normaly) He was in a mood for most of the day on saturday. Yesterday(sunday) he was great, we had a great time out. He was ok after school. I dont even know why he he got in this mad mood. It was just like someone had said something to him and he did not like what they said. The other Dc were watching the tv. He just went for it.

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GeorginaA · 18/09/2006 21:57

Anything he'd eaten that he normally doesn't?

I know with my ds1 that until fairly recently, if he had a fruit shoot you could time the extreme bad behaviour to the minute Some kids do seem to react to food colourings and additives in that way?

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hazelnuts · 18/09/2006 21:58

harrisey.. Thanks.I will go and have a you at your thread now.

I just did not know what to think or do when he went off. It was like he had gone crazy. I hope your DD is ok now.

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hazelnuts · 18/09/2006 22:14

GeorginaA I don't think we had anything that we don't normally have. He has not had him normal intake of chocolate and crap that his dad feeds him on a Saturday. It was just like some1 had switched a switch on him and 10 minutes later turned if off again. [Puzzeled look smiley]

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GeorginaA · 18/09/2006 22:15

flack · 18/09/2006 22:23

I have an almost 7yo boy and he is like this sometimes. I have had to learn to try to defuse him before it gets too bad. I wonder if this how the famed testosterone surges hit some boys. Year 2 is hard on them, too, I think.

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hazelnuts · 18/09/2006 22:23

I will see what happens over the next few weeks and see if there is a pattern to this like some MNers have had with there DDs.

Thanks for what you have said so far. It is good to know that I am not the only one.

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hazelnuts · 18/09/2006 22:28

flack. I would like to know what is the right way to help him and to help stop him when/if he does it again, so any info would be great to know. I dont know what started him off, so I cant go from that point.

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flack · 18/09/2006 22:44

I wish i could help, let's put it this way...I am glad ds is in school most of the day, right now. Computer games and anything too frustrating or disappointing often sets ds off.

WideWebWitch · 18/09/2006 22:48

Hi hazelnuts, I've had quite a bit of this from my mostly well adjusted boy, who is now nearly 9. It does sound like a strop to me. albeit a bad big one! Sorry, no time now but search on my name and behaviour and develpment and you'll see you're not alone.

edam · 18/09/2006 22:51

Sounds very distressing, as if he couldn't stop even if he had wanted to? Maybe offer him some where to go if he feels himself getting out of hand again - not a 'naughty step' but just a place he can go to cool off on his own, without anybody following him and bothering him. Maybe also worth suggesting if he does feel he's going off on one, he stops and concentrates on deep breathing. The effort it takes to control your breath is a great distraction and it helps clear your head.

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hazelnuts · 19/09/2006 20:51

Thanks flack, wickedwaterwitch, edam. I will keep all in mine for the next time. His teacher was not pleased that he ripe his reading book up.I said I would pay for a new 1 but she seemed very unhappy with me.

He was great tonight. Not his normal self. he was very good, done his reading and played well. Even went to bed ok. All great as I did not have any electric.

I will have to see how he goes. If he does do it again I will try the time out bit. The hallway yesterday worked seemed to work.

Thanks again

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