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ds1 has been downright naughty today.

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colditz · 17/09/2006 22:08

Sneaking into the kitchen, taking things off the surface, taking them up the garden, emptying moisturiser all over the floor, adding extra stickers to his sticker chart, hitting his baby brother, going in the bathroom and playing with hairspray etc, he went charging out of the front door and off into the estate (!!!!) and I had to go and look for him, deliberately pouring a cup of milk onto my new rug...

WHY? I am trying so hard with him, but I still can't have a conversation with him. I tried to talk to him at bedtime, after stories, when i thought he would be nice and calm, but he bit my top and shook his head, (pretending to be a dog) wouldn't meet my eye and basically just arsed about.

Tomorrow, we will get up, he will probably be a lot better behaved, and he will go to playschool, etc, but today he has tried me to my limits.

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Blossomhill · 17/09/2006 22:10

Sorry you had a bad day colditz

What do you do when he does say hit his brother?

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colditz · 17/09/2006 22:12

I tell him off. I tell him it is naughty to hit people, and he might have hurt his baby brother, now he must go and give him a kiss and say sorry. he does, he always does. It's not the duration of the naughty acts, it's the frequency, IYSWIM!

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Blossomhill · 17/09/2006 22:13

Have you tried time outs/sticker charts that kind of thing?

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colditz · 17/09/2006 22:20

yes I have, but - and I am aware that I am showing myself up to be an amature here - i don't know what sort of behavior warrents the 'time-out', and how much I should ignore.

My friend's children don't get told off nearly as much as ds1 does, and I feel like such a cow. But then no other 3.5 year old we know climbs on top of the surfaces or does runners out of the front door with a cheery shout of "bye bye!"

i know that if my friends' children did any of these things, they would have been in time out for each thing, but seriously ds1 would have been sat on that step all day, I mean all day!

i don't want to be a horrible harsh mummy, but to be honest when he is being that naughty as he has been today, if I don't punish him, I am completely ineffective. His response to "Please bring that to mummy, it's not yours and it is sharp" is to leg it up the garden! (I was feeding ds2)

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colditz · 17/09/2006 22:40

I will be positive though. He is always very remorseful when caught doing something destructive, but it just doesn't seem to stop him doing it again at the soonest opportunity

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