My D.D (2.8yo) has always been a terrible sleeper. Out of desperation we put a double bed in her room and started co-sleeping with her when I was pregnant with DC2. At first she was happy to be put to bed on her own in her own room and then DH or I would join her in the middle of the night if she woke up. We thought things were improving but since DS arrived it's been terrible sleep wise (although she is great with him during the day).
Now only I will do - she goes bananas if DH goes to her at night. So, I now spend basically every night in there (with DS - now 4months in the Moses Basket next to us).
Also, she now won't self settle and needs me to sit with her until she's asleep. The worst is she wakes every hour in the evening screaming for me to come to her. I feel like I don't get a minute to myself and it's not good for mine and DHs relationship.
We want to change her habits and so DH over the last few nights, DH has been going to her in the evenings instead of me. She has been getting so worked up and upset she has been being sick - the thing is I think she is making herself sick on purpose because as soon as I go to her she is calm and chatty.
How do we break this horrible cycle? She's very imaginative and I do think she has nightmares sometimes but I also think she's just got in the habit of having me there. Help!