Because my lovely little boy has disappeared and hates me, everything I do and his whole world. When he is in one of his tantrums he says he is rubbish and that we don't love him which makes me so sad as nothing could be further from the truth 
. He is having toddler style meltdowns in a big way (which he never did as a toddler incidentally) and screams so loudly I'm surprised we've not had the neighbours round. He said he is getting angry and its as though he has no control over it. I've just had to remove him to his room to calm down such was the tantrum. I'm worried that if I can't manage him now I have no hope in a few years when he's bigger and stronger than me.
His behaviour at school is more than fine, though he has been mixing with others whose behaviour isn't so good (there is a behaviour management system in place and this is how we know, also from reports from his teacher). Not that DS is angelic by any means, but he's definitely not making the best choices when it comes to friendships IYSWIM. and as much as I'd like to intervene I think he has to work this out for himself? He does very well at school, but seems to save all his angst for me - not so much DH. I feel it's my fault as I have PND and so find it hard to cope some days - though days are generally getting a bit brighter.
We have tried rewards (stickers, treats, pocket money), ignoring bad behaviour, taking prized things away to be earned back. Nothing seems to work. Obviously it's the summer hols now and despite being taken out pretty much every day this week it's still not good enough and I'm a 'horrid mean mummy'
I'm at a loss but honestly feel like running away and not coming back. It's so hurtful and I want my boy back. His younger sister is also picking up on things and starting to mimic his phrases
So is this a phase or should we be talking to school or someone else when he gets back?
Anyone been through this and come out the other side?