OK feel a bit embarrassed and know I shouldn't but.......

[loujay]

I put DD in a creche provided for me whilst I work. Picked her up this afternoon and one of the girls pulled me to one side and said that she thought she ought to mentio that DD (3) had been laying face down on the floor and "fiddling". They had told her not to do it but she had carried on.
Now I know that there has been a thread on this recently and DD has been fiddleing for a while, but never outside the house!!
How can I explain to her that she shouldnt do this in front of anyone (as it were).
We have been ignoring it at home in the hope that it is a phase she will grow out of, now I feel I have to tackle it. Help!!

oh god, my DD3 was doing this at nursery at the dinner table!!

Lots of kids do this and at 3, I think it's just best ignored.

I think you either say to the creche staff, "That's fine by me. Just pay no attention to it." or you have a chat with her about some things you do in private at home, and not at other places. But I imagine that at 3yo she's probably still a bit young to really understand and accept it. I don't think the staff should have told her not to do it, but rather to have just offered her a distraction instead.

Thank God!!
I felt like it was best to ignore it, but the woman today made me feel like DD was some sort of pervert.
I think that she was doing it more because she was tired and it was like a comfort thing IYKWIM

As a teacher of infant children I have seen lots of children playing with their bits. They find them, it feels nice then they get fed up and move on in my opinion. I never make a big deal about it and I always advise parents not to.