back to school back to biting

[southeastastra]

i knew it couldn't last one week in and my ds(5) has been biting again help i want to cry...

i am really the only person who has to deal with this

last bump, please any suggestions anyone? i really want him to stop !

no you are not. Mine did it in nursery and it is very upsetting for everyone concerned.

I'm going to risk the wrath of MN here.

He bit my MIL, and she bit him back. He never bit another soul.

I'm not sugesting this as an solution, as I would never have done it myself. Howvere, it was what happened to us.

sympathy for you

my other son has tried biting him back, it doesn't work he got a bad warning at school today, he just keeps on doing it

hard to know what to sugest.

When does it happen, any particular triggers etc

it happens when he is playing with other children and they disagree with him, his first reaction is to hit or bite. the school know he is like this, but i really don't know what to do

Is he like this at home?

Have you tried a starchart? (sorry if this is old stuff) Positive reward for good behaviour, sanction for biting?

he is like it at home, mostly with his older brother (who does get the brunt of it). i've tried a star chart, i'm going to try again this week with it. he seems to know he has done wrong but i'm so worried he'll grow up into a bully.

have you tried doing a supernanny style naughty step when he bites?

well, stop worrying. He is 5 not 10!

Star chart. agree a (small) reward for an agreed period of no nipping. Don't weaken if he almost makes it, but don't make the period of time impossibly long in the first instance. Stick to biting first and deal with the hitting later

i feel i am going mad thinking that he will get expelled or something, or the other child's mum will yell at me. i feel so bad he is really a nice child most of the time but sometimes so agressive