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Pooing - psychological!

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Jaffakake · 17/07/2014 20:36

I'm cross posting with potty training - this board seems busier, but the root of the issue is psychological!

Ds, nearly 3, cracked weeing in the space of a week, but isn't pooing. The last 2 weeks he's obviously been holding it in. Last time he pooped, on Monday, he had a melt down & asked for a pull-up & it took most of the morning for him to go.

I've been giving him lactulose (ok'd by GP fil) which has succeeded in stopping it becoming painful for him when he does go & I've been giving him all sorts of poo producing foodstuffs!

We believe he just needs to do it once & then he'll most likely be fine. He also knows when he does he'll be taken shopping for a present, which has definitely registered!

Any advice? I really want to try & help, but at the end of the day I can't make his bowels do what needs to be done! I'm sure it's a common phase, I'd just like to think I'm doing all I can to support him in learning this.

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dsteinway · 18/07/2014 16:36

Some kids get the impression that poo is disgusting or gross and he may feel embarrassed although not recognise that he is. Maybe it sounds weird but perhaps take him to the toilet when you go and discuss what's happening. Try to normalise it. My daughter had issues going at nursery (although not at home) and they just kept talking to her about poo like when she went for a wee and so on and eventually she went.

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Jaffakake · 18/07/2014 19:14

Thanks. I've been doing that for months & he's been inspecting what I put in the toilet bowl! (the things we do!?)

after a week of us & nursery talking to him about it & he being back in nappies all day he's done it. I think he decided he's much better in big boy pants & now fully understands what he needs to do.

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Heyho111 · 21/07/2014 06:57

He also might dislike the feeling of going on the toilet as soon children feel like part of their body is falling away. You could try letting him wear the nappy , then wearing it slightly looser so he gradually gets used to it dropping from him. You could then lay the nappy open across the potty before removing. This should be done over weeks to slowly desensitise him.

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