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Toddler carrying baby!!!

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Flamesparrow · 12/09/2006 14:18

Argh!

Since he has started sitting and crawling DD (3) seems to think DS (6 1/2 months) is big enough to be dragged up to sitting position, sat on her lap and so on...

She just done it and dropped him upside down on his head - ok, so it was only the same as if he toppled over from sitting, but still - I can see her dislocating arms etc!!!

I have been sitting her on the stairs for it the past few days and she knows WHY she mustn't do it (she can tell me why), and today I yelled at her and sat her on the stairs (feel a tad mean - she's got a cold and is feeling rough ). It just doesn't seem to be sinking in.

I know she loves him, but how can I stop her showing him so physically??!?!?!

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PrettyCandles · 12/09/2006 14:22

How about praising her for her loving care and attention to her brother, but saying that he's very awkward to lift so if she wants to hold him she must ask mummy to help. And then when she does ask, be sure to help her and praise her again.

serenity · 12/09/2006 14:26

I wish I knew - DS1 managed to drop DS2 quite a few times until he (DS2) was just too big and wriggly for DS1 to pick up (only 2.4yrs between them)

I still spend half my time telling him to leave poor DD alone (he's 8.5, and she's nearly 3) He is constantly trying to hug her, pick her up and generally smother her with love which is sweet in some ways but really, really p's DD off.

I wonder if it's an eldest child thing, as DS2 has never shown any real desire to manhandle DD?

Nemo1977 · 12/09/2006 14:32

ds does this with dd. He has taken it upon himself to have a parental role. He moves her away from things I usually move her from etc. Which I know is him trying to be helpful but it does worry me. However on the other hand dd seems to love him being rough with her!! There is 2.2yrs between them and they are very close...

PinkTulips · 12/09/2006 14:34

my dd is a bit older than your ds (19 months) but since shes been able to walk the little girls in the neighbouring apartments (two 5yo and a 8) all insist on picking her up as soon as they see her and carting her around.... she loves it and their so proud i'm never sure what to say (also don't want to tell off someone elses kids as their parents are a bit dodgy iykwim). the littlest one went tumbling one day and thay were both rolling on the ground laughing!

sounds like your doing everything right and hopefully it'll sink in soon. how about having times where she is allowed to hold him, like sitting on the couch and maybe a little carry around with you hanging on too, she might get her fill from that and not be so desperate to pick him up.

chipkid · 12/09/2006 14:35

I remember my ds shouting "mummy look dd is standing on her head" as he held my 8 month old dd in the air by her leg!
She thought it funny-I can see the funny side of it now!

MrsDoolittle · 12/09/2006 14:37

Oh Gosh Flame. I could have written that.
Dd just can't seem to leave ds alone.
"My Ruairi" she says.

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Flamesparrow · 12/09/2006 14:40

DS seems to enjoy the roughness too

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Flamesparrow · 12/09/2006 14:42

lmao chipkid - I know I would be shrieking if it were DD but seeing it written down...

Like the bath thread where someone said they found one DC holding the other under the water saying "Find Nemo!"

I think a lot of it is that she see Psycho's children carrying him around, and she just doesn't understand that she is smaller than them.

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Toady · 12/09/2006 15:07

My dd2 (2.9yrs) keeps trying to pick DS3 (8.5mths) up by the neck , Really difficult to try and explain to her,

kittywits · 12/09/2006 15:12

When dd2 was a baby I remember sitting in the kitchen , looking up as movement in the hall caught my eye only to see my other three children aged then between 2, 4 and 5 pulling her along with them by the arm. They wanted to include her in what they were doing. She didn't seem to mind at all. It was a sight to see!!

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