11 month old temper tantrums - please reassure me this is normal?

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My 11 month old dd has just in the last week started with real 'temper' tantrums.

Especially if I take anything off her or move her away from somewhere.

She really bawls and when I try to pick her makes her arms go straight and stiff so I cant grip her or makes her self go all floppy.

She seems quite distressed but fights off hugs.

Today its been a nightmare - all the blooming time. I am . I have heard the terrible twos start at 18 months but this seems a little early.

Anyone else?

normal. My ds started this after his first birthday. Don't you just hate the shoulder drop that stops you picking them up!

dd though has only just sterted tantrums and she is almost two!

they are all different-but what you describe was my experience with ds

Oh yes - back arching is the favourite here I can't remember when it started with ds, but he's 17mths now and it's still going strong! Terrible twos my @*$£

My dd is 13 months next week and I was also shocked by the tantrums at 11 months, especially as ds was very laid back at that age. She does exactly what you describe, including going floppy. I just laugh at her and try and distract her once she's had a bit of time to get it out of her system. I think they're just discovering how the world works and that it doesn't always work the way they want it to!!

FWIW, the terrible 'twos' are a myth. They can start anywhere between 1 and 3 - my niece and nephew were models twos and my sil thought she'd done an amazing job. They hit 3 and all hell broke loose!!! It's just down to temperament and there is nothing you can do to stop it, you just have to find an effective way to deal with it!!

DS was worse at 10 - 12 months than he is now a year later. I think limited ability had a lot to do with it at this age. I reckon the plain old wilfulness is still to come though...

my dts are 17mnths and have been having tantrums a while. first one started then the other. When they both go off at the same time it is not fun! They usually tear chucnks out of each other, slapping and biting. dt1 has a foul temper at the moment and willt hrow himslef on the floor, throw things or hit anything in sight!

aaaarrgh - I cant even move her away from the stairgate so I can pass through it without a prompting a huge screaming fit

so it could be just like this, if not worse for the next 2 years hey? thats what you're all telling me is it? nooooooooooooooo

I suppose the silver lining to this cloud is that she's an early developer...

My ds 11 months is exactly the same - screams blue murder if you try and take anything off him (I have learnt not to let him get hold of things in the first place if at all possible!)then when I pick him up he arches his back and almost does a back flip out of my arms! - distraction usually works eventually but it can be really tiring...lets hope this means they will grow out of it sooner???

DS1 started temper tantrums at 11 months. The full on back arching, screaming, kicking, head butting walls and floors, biting anyone who came near him... need I go on??? But on an up side, he was tantrum free by 2 1/2, so while his peers were in the throws of it, we just happily watched in glee as he was, by then, a sheer delight.

He is now nearly 10 and I am sure he is starting the whole teenage thing already!!

oops - just re-read my post - i meant limited ability to communicate. i found that once he had a few words and a whole arsenal of signs (by 12and a half/13 months) he found they were a more effective way of getting his needs/wishes addressed than simply shouting.

My DS started as 10 months, and still has them now at 16 months. My HV told they learn how to throw tantrums at about the age of 1 but they perfect the art at 2

okay so totally normal then

poppies, your post is super-fab - I love the idea of her growing out of it earlier while all my friends babies who are calm and pleasant now are having the screaming-hab-dabs

Completely normal. My Ds 11mths throws himself down onto his bum and punches the floor in a full on tantrum or holds onto the side of the play pen and bounces up and down in complete rage. Quite funny to watch. Also hates getting dressed and will arch back suddenly which often results ina head but if I'm not quick enough. LOVELY!!

Gosh , thought I was alone

My ds 11months, throws a wobbler whenever I change his nappy and whenever I take him out of the bath. He won't keep still and tries to roll off the changing mat

I too thought it was 'abnormal', but after reading all your posts, can see that it's quite the norm .

I find when my son is distressed/ having a tantrum he always fights off hugs and battles to be put down but then becomes more hysterical when put down - hard to know what to do for the best, what to expect in the first year suggests discipline should start in the 10th month but this seems faintly ridiculous

DS started the tantrums at 10-11 months, too. They got worse for a bit, but from about 15 months have been getting slightly better (he's now 19 months) although I have no doubt that they'll get worse again before we come out the other side...