Bedtime for 10 year old

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My DD sometimes stays up until 9pm (weekends and once or twice a week on a school night) but most of the time she is in bed at 8pm. She reads for half an hour and then it's lights out. For the past two nights she has had a real problem settling.

We have recently had a big move and she has started a new school etc so lots of disruption. I'm starting to wonder if I'm sending her to bed too early?

We have a routine and chill out time before bed. She is an only child and her friends all have different bedtimes.

What time would you say is reasonable to send a 10 year old to bed on a school night?!

Mines 10 and he's in bed for 9.30pm. Tends to sneak up and put the TV on quietly now and again.

Puts on the tv in his room rainbow?

Depends what time they need to be up surely. Ds goes to bed at 9 lights out 9:30 he is up between 6 and 7.

If I let her go to bed at the later time I have to wake her at 7:30 and she would sleep on if I let her!

The nights she has after school sports she's normally out like a light.

This is totally new to me as she has always been a fabulous sleeper/settler right from being a baby!

Just seems like she can't 'switch off' and she gets very tearful if she can't get to sleep.

Normally it's lights out at 9 but sometimes 9.30

Tv on in room yes. I don't gwt him up till 8am, I like to get all my bits done before the fireworks start!

Rainbow, you are a lot more chilled out than me ;-) She hasn't got a tv in her room but sometimes watches the iplayer on her tablet during the day on a weekend in her room!

I guess I should stop stressing and just go with the flow. If she springs out of bed at 6am then I know I'm putting her to bed too early :-)

My two are a bit older, and go to bed/sleep at 10 now but I think they had a fairly similar bedtime at 10. 8 in bed and 8.30 lights out seems perfectly reasonable to me. If you wanted to adjust it I'd only put it half an hour back. I expect that she's struggling to get to sleep becasue she has a lot on her mind with all of the changes. I'd be more inclined to make sure that you have plenty of time to chat to her about how she's doing with everything in case she needs to talk it through/have reassurance that things will settle down.

Thank you nooka. This evening has been an improvement on yesterday evening!

We had a long chat whilst she was in the bath. Everything was much calmer. Although she did come down twice to the toilet (new house, bathroom downstairs...pain!) Eventually she settled at just after 9:30.

I'm going to stick to lights out at 8:30 on a schoil night and see how we go :-)

My 10 year old son normally goes up to bed about 8.30 on a school night and reads a book until 9pm (occasionally we find him reading past 9 with a torch under his covers!)

On a Friday and Saturday night he either stays up later until about 9.30 or he goes to bed at normal time and watches a DVD in bed.

He used to be up before the rest of us but lately we have been waking him up!