At what age did you transfer your newborn to sleeping in their own room?

[moomin35]

I know its recommended that baby sleeps in the same room as you for the first 6 months and I am fine with doing it at the moment but unless he starts sleeping through for longer periods I think it will just be too difficult to do for a whole 6 months. Just wondered if anyone went against the advice, why you did and how it worked out? Would it just be irresponsible of me to do this?

in her own room I mean

DD1 was 3 weeks, DD2 was 2months I think. I didn't know of the guidelines when I had DD1. Our room is tiny and could barely fit the Moses basket in.

DD was 7 weeks. She was a horribly noisy sleeper and I could hear her through ear plugs. DS was three months when he outgrew the Moses basket. I read all the advice and was happy with my decision.

I'm still working on it at 8 months.
He starts off there ok, but he tends to sneak in during a night feed. I don't really mind, it's easier than having to leave my warm bed. I'm calling this a loooooon transition. I think he's sleeping slightly better in there though; we definitely don't wake him now.

Personally I don't know what difference it would make to cot death. If it happens and they're in the same room and I'm sleeping I won't wake up so it's pretty much the same as if they're in a different room with a monitor and we have an angelcare monitor that tells you if they stop moving.

We moved our DS at 9 months as his room was still full of boxes from when I'd moved in until then, (we had meant to do the whole 'decorate the nursery' thing when I stared my ML, but unfortunately my FIL passed away so we went into zombie mode instead!) by which point he had outgrown his swingy crib and I was having to climb over a travel cot to get in and out of bed.

He's now 5 years and has recently started creeping back in every night, I don't mind as long as he's not still doing it when he's 16.

14/15 months, but we were waiting for the worst of the teething to end...

And the people who claim it's the same having them in another room, the recommendations are there for a reason. in your soom, hearing you breathe, helps babies learn to regulate their own breathing. they settle it to match yours... it is important

It's nothing to do with whether you notice anything happening purpleme the sound of your breathing helps baby to regulate their breathing and prevents them from falling into too deep a sleep. That cant happen if they are in a different room from you.

Its fine to make an informed choice but you really should arm yourself with all the facts before making that decision. My daughter stayed in with us until she was 9 months. I was knackered but I didn't expect not to be when becoming parents.

Mine were 9 months when they went into their own rooms - as soon as they were sleeping through the night.

There was no way I wanted to be getting up and walking into another room every night when they woke up!

5 weeks. DD and I kept on waking each other up moving around, etc. Went into her own room and slept through from that point on. Now 5 YO.

You have to read all the evidence and all the advice and then make your own informed choice.

DD was a brilliant sleeper and I, on the other hand, wasn't. I kept waking up every hour to watch her on the video monitor to make sure she was still breathing. Wouldn't have made any difference if she was in the room with me though. But as I said, she slept beautifully and always has.

www.askdrsears.com/topics/health-concerns/sleep-problems/co-sleeping-yes-no-sometimes

Im confused by the idea that it would be too difficult to have a baby waking up in your room as opposed to a different room. You have to get up and feed/change/wind/settle them anyway so surely it's easier if they are in your room?

Oh I eee I didn't know that. I read in so many different places about SIDS and nowhere it said the reason behind that. Oh well I'm happy with what I did.

purple there is a problem about misinformation and sometimes people don't know what to trust...

I just hope some of these links and information will help more people follow what they think it's right... and if there is space... it does help the baby to be in the same room as the caring adult

Still working on it - and she's just turned 4 (years)

Jumblebee I didn't say co sleeping was an option for all. I hate it and got very little sleep when mine were in bed with me.

It is more awkward if you have a small room but unless your bed touches all the walls it isn't impossible. My first son was massive, top centile but still fitted in his Moses basket.
You can get mini cots, fold up cots, bedside cots, move furniture out of your room, put a single bed in your babies room.

My sister nearly died as a result of what was called an interrupted cot death. While I'm aware that there is no magic switch at 6 months that turns on and keeps your baby safe. Since the guidelines have been there cot death has reduced. Sharing a room isn't the only factor but it is a factor in that and one I am happy to move a wardrobe for.

Somewhere after 3 months - This was before guidelines. I was very sensitive to the noises and woke up at every snuffle. As the gaps grew between feeds it worked well enough to have separate rooms (it's easier to be in together if feeding a lot I found.) unless a bit poorly when we co-slept - only I barely slept at all!

Being sensitive to baby's sounds at night is, IMO, a protective mechanism which means you can sense when something is wrong. I woke up many times to find ds next to me not breathing until I had to give him a big prod. (He had reflux so struggled until I worked out what it was and got medication).

I would keep them with me until at least 6 months. Even now I stay in their rooms if they're unwell (as does DH if not me).

5 1/2 months. We were disturbing his sleep I think. SIDS is now incredibly rare but if you can follow the precautions easily then great but I think it's a balance of risks/benefits. For instance some people choose to co-sleep even though it's not best SIDS prevention practice because it gives them much more sleep and/or prolongs bf. Others move their LOs into their own rooms before 6 months for the same reason. I'd do it if you think you'll get lots more sleep but wouldn't bother if it's marginal.

In a moses basket than cot until 18 months old. Mainly because I had PND and could not organise his room at all. And because I needed to wake in the night and hear he was still breathing.

Once they were sleeping through consistantly, about 3 or 4 months old.

Not you didn't, but sleeping with a baby in the room isn't for all, either. If the risks are weighed up and the parent decides to move their baby before the 6 months then they shouldn't be judged or scolded for doing so (I'm not saying that you are doing this, I just found in my experience that there were a lot of people who told other mums off for moving babies into their own rooms)

Co sleeping also slightly increases the risks of SIDS, it's a damned if you do and damned if you don't type situation.

As for moving furniture, again not everyone can do that if they have inbuilt wardrobes and their baby's room is the box room (my nephews was, you could walk in, turn around on the spot and then walk out again)

I guess it's down to personal preference really, I didn't see the need to move my DD to a crib when she would soon outgrow it and we knew that we were disturbing her sleep with DP's snoring and my constant shuffling.

DS is 22 months old and still sleeps in our room. This is not a problem for us as we have space for his cot and we are all very good sleepers! In the rare situation that DS isn't sleeping well (sick, teething, etc), either DH or myself will sleep in the spare room so at least someone gets a good night's sleep.

Yes, do what is best for you and your family. But, in making the decision, bear in mind that the advice is as much so that they can hear you as the reverse.

Also, you say you'll have to move him unless he starts sleeping longer. I presume because you think moving him will help sleep? Bear in mind that that isn't automatically the case. Some babies sleep worse or no different in another room.

DD did at about 3 months.

DS is 18 weeks and still in with us. He's feet and head practically touch the ends of the Moses basket though