Clingyness of 2yr DD when with 3mnth DS

[Kate3481]

My DD has all of a sudden become extremely clingy from being a very much daddies girl, all she seems to want is 'cuddle, mummy'.especiky so at feeding (bf) or changing DS. I've tried to get her involved from the start & does at times help changing DS, but most of the time, esp when bf, she kicks off, tantruming & in hysterics as I can't carry (cuddle) her. This leds to her tantruming for the whole time (I was whipping poor DS off mid feed to placidate her-but given up now). I'm sure this is very common- can anyone offer any suggestions? I am resenting her being so difficult & makes me want to spend more time with DS as he gets ignored or has to put up with her screaming & throwing herself around the place. It starts off from 7am with this as at feeding times...so tiring & not gd way to start the day...everyone being worn out(baby doesn't sleep thru) & angry for the rest of the long long day! Help!

My DS was 2.5 years when DD was born.

He went through a bit of a phase like that, but it passed quicker than I thought.

Please don't resent her - she isn't being annoying on purpose. You're all she knows and now her little brain is trying to grasp the fact that this little baby is here to stay. I think DS used to see DD as a doll, and then tantrum when he realised she was a permanent fixture in our house.

I also bf, and found it useful to have some snacks for DS to eat while I bf DD. So he'd sit on sofa beside me with some fruit or biscuits while I bf DD. Usually we'd read a book or something at same time so I wasn't ignoring him..... CBeebies became a wonderful saviour to my sanity!

It's now 3 years down the road for us and to see them play together and be the best of buddies is just lovely. You're doing your best and that's great. Your DC won't remember this awkward stage in a few years, and they'll love having each other (and you!) around.