2.9 months old boy throwing tantrums and not listening. When does it end?

[Almo123]

My son is 2 years and 9 months old. In the last 3 months he has started having terrible tantrums . They can be set off by the smallest things i.e. this morning we had a meltdown because there was no kiwi fruit.

He can be inconsolable and full of rage. He'll throw things, swipe at objects which come crashing to the floor. He sometimes will lash out and bite. He's now started to be rude to strangers whilst out in public.

Should I be concerned that this behaviour might last?

Also he doesn't seem to listen or follow instruction , again should I be worried that this behaviour might last and what's the best way to discipline this behaviour?

Any advice is welcome.

Thanks

My son is also 2.9 and has started really having tantrums in the last couple months. We thought it might've been down to the arrival of his baby sister, but I think it's also just an age/stage thing and about time too my friends would say!

His current favourites to wind mummy up are made up words to express his frustration, sitting down in protest, whining, and his go-to response to frustration - throwing things.

I'm afraid I don't have any solutions as I don't handle any of the above particularly well and he's still doing them! Deep breaths, pick your battles and alcohol chocolate I can definitely empathise though.

Ds is 2.10 & started having tantrums & bad reactions like hitting, pinching & attempted biting. We've started with the naughty spot this week & he totally seems to get it & says sorry & gets on with whatever we were trying to get him to do, but whether it has a positive impact on his behaviour remains to be seen!

@Almo123, sudden outbursts at strangers in public. That sounds familiar.
@Jaffakake, remorse but the admonishment has no effect, ditto.

Discipline (timeout, naughty step, withdrawing treats) doesn't work and I don't know why.

S

It's good to know I'm not alone. Everyone else's kids always seem so attentive. He's my first child and will be an only child so its difficult to know what's 'normal'.

He just gets so worked up and angry sometimes. There's no reasoning and he simply wont or cant listen to explanation.

We've tried time out, thinking time, we have smacked on occasion which we weren't very comfortable with and found that it didn't work anyway. For a few days singing 'cum-by-a' worked for some reason but there really is no one size fits all response.

We just don't want him to be spoilt or overindulged if we get the discipline wrong now. We also want to make sure that these outbursts disappear in time for school.

Perhaps I'm over thinking it all.

So I glad I read this...DS also 2.9months having wild tantrums over daft things e.g. Daddy put the light on, so lets throw ourselves on the floor in a leg-kicking strop.

Daft boy tells us what he wants to do though whilst in a tantrum "wanna hit mummy" or "wanna throw the juice", which gives us just enough time to dodge.

Hope it passes by his 3rd birthday!

I wouldn't worry too much about school at this stage. It's a long way off in toddler phase time!

I don't think there is a one size fits all response as the feeling behind the behaviour will differ. With ds we try to help him think of other ways to express his frustration, like shouting outside, stamping his feet, clapping his hands etc. He did go through a biting phase and reading teeth are not for biting seemed to help. He doesn't really hit at the moment but I'm pretty hardline on aggressive behaviour. We don't use the naughty step or anything yet but i have resorted to banishing him to the garden where he can't throw things a couple times recently!

I do try to discern between poor behaviour as a result of hunger\tiredness and poor behaviour due to deliberately trying to wind mummy up mischief making with his friends.

trolley mine is the same, except he'll say things like "not to throw toys", and then do it! It's like he can't resist the power of negative suggestion