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Wont nap in her cot bed!!Help...

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lilymolly · 07/09/2006 10:22

dd is 8months old and has just started to pull herself up onto her feet. since she was little she has always had naps either in cot if we where home, or in pram if we where out, and needs no settling, just her dummy.
Over the last few days, she has been a nightmare to settle in her cot because as soon as you put her down for nap when she is obviously tired, she is pulling herself onto her feet and banging on the end of the cot! I have tried leaving her and she cries and cries, but I am terrified to leave her to cry it out too long, as she sometimes falls onto her head on the wooden side of the cot.
Is this something to work with, or will I have to start putting her in her pram during the day.

This morning I let her cry for about 10 mins, then went in, put her back on her back and sat next to the cot for about 3 mins, slowly moving away from her, eventually leaving room and she fell asleep.

Do babies as they get older get this way?

is it bad practice for baby to have naps in pram?(I realise this is only an opinion, but would be interested in yours)

Is staying next to cot whilst they sleep also bad practice?

I do NOT want to get into the habit of having to settle baby myself IYSWIM- always just put her down and let her sleep with dummy- maybe just been lucky before now!!

Any advice greatly appreciated...

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lilymolly · 07/09/2006 11:19

bump- anyone out there today?

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basboseh · 07/09/2006 11:38

i guess babies do change from month to month
mine is still 7 months
sometimes she sleeps by herself quickly,others she cries alot.
she always sleeps in pushchair but not as long as before
although i trained her to sleep i still feed her at night and stay by her but leave gradually.
i dont say im extremely happy like this i just cant leave her to cry for long im too soft

bobsi · 07/09/2006 14:02

My dd is 11 months and has been quite slow to get on the move. I'm going through the same thing though - this week she has started to sit up when I put her down in cot. I've been thinking the same as you - Do I let her sleep in pram etc... I've perservered and every time she gets up I lie her dowm again (no talking/eye contact) and eventually she drifts off. Had to do it nearly 30 times yesterday!! If you search 'standing in cot' on here you'll find it's a common problem and I've taken comfort from seeing that others have perservered and it gets better. She's normally a fab sleeper and this has really thrown me. It's taking half an hour at each nap and at bedtime for her to drop off. Mines not even standing yet - I've got lots of this to come

bobsi · 07/09/2006 14:03

PinkTulips · 07/09/2006 14:08

hate to tell you this but when we put dd into a bedtime routine and soted out the night time sleeping at 12 months she downright refused to sleep in her cot during the day ever again she sleeps like an angel 7.30-7/8/9 through the night, doesn't fuss when put down but if we try and put her in it during the day she'll just scream indefinietly

since than the only place she'll nap is on top of me on the couch... uncomfortable when preg, damn near impossible with ds needing attention. she won't sleep on dp or on her own... only on me. once she's asleep i can usually slide out from under her and leave her sleep there but it still means i'm stuck there for up to half an hour while she drops off and if theres anyonein the room she won't.

have absolutely no idea how to fix it and as she seems to be dropping the nap somedays now i hope i won't have to

mazzarella · 07/09/2006 14:26

My daughter sleeps where ever she feels like during the day! the sofa normally but sometimes the floors or where ever she drops, she will NOT sleep in her bed during the day but goes down no bother at bedtime!

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lilymolly · 07/09/2006 14:59

right thank for advice- maybe just a phase, or it maybe that I need to change to pram during the day. she sleeps fine on a night in cot (so far.....) will try and perservere with cot during the day, but will see.

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SufferingInSilence · 07/09/2006 15:33

I found with both ds1&ds2 that they change as they get older and get throught phases where they are struggling to sleep - usually when they are learning a new skill like standing up or walking. I wouldn't be surprised if you find your dd upright in the middle of the night not knowing how to go down again! It will pass.
Besides that, I have done the same than you with ds2, staying on the side of this cot whilst he is falling asleep. I don't thing it's a 'bad habit' more some reassurance for them. ds2 is still happy to fall asleep on his own after a couple of months where I needed to be besides him. TBH, I would have done exactly what you did so not a lot else to add
Carry on the good work!

topsy1 · 08/09/2006 11:06

my ds wouldn't nap in his cot at all - i used to take him for a short walk and he'd fall asleep in his pram and i'd park him outside whatever the weather - all through winter - just wrapped him up. very happy like that for about 16mths until started to get too hot (despite shadey areas in garden and total uv shades) tried him in his cot and he went straight to sleep. had tried him several times before and he just stood and cried and then like yours fell asleep after 30 mins with me settling him. felt this defeted the point and both happier with the pram. always slept well at night and so didnt want to change this. sorry so long, but sometimes you need to just do whatever you can and not worry.

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lilymolly · 08/09/2006 15:26

Thanks for advice- still having hard time via the cot in the day, but if she has to go to sleep in pram, its no hardship, as she will have to do this after january when she is at childminders and I am back at work.

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