How do you deal with completely out of control sobbing/tantrum? 23 months old

[beccajoh]

DD is normally an angel most of the time and so far we've not really had to deal with tantrums, but she's not well at the moment and every slight thing that's not right is setting her off into frenzy. She woke up just now and DH offered her a drink, cue her shouting "NO NO NO" and dissolving into uncontrollable sobbing and thrashing around in her cot. We're a bit perplexed about how to deal with it! Do we leave her to it? Try and cuddle her? Any attempts to distract seem to make things worse. It's as if she's not really hearing us because she's so upset, so any attempts to communicate are met with more "NO NO NO"

Poor thing must be feeling quite unwell

Just sit and wait for her to calm down then cuddle.

I think if she is poorly, then you need to pander to her a little. If she is not responding, then just sir in the room with her, with comforting words or a cuddle, until she has calmed down. Can you give her any cal pol if she's poorly. Sometimes the heat gets to them also.

If she was well, I'd be giiving different advice. Ie. don't respond to her demands, and let her cry it out ( providing she is in a safe position. Eg. Cot). Explain that you a re not going to give in to her, and then maybe sit in her room, facing a way, if you don't want to leave her totally, or leave the room until she has calmed down.

Hope she feels better soon.

She's getting regular ibuprofen, antibiotics and paracetamol suppositories (calpol makes her vomit), but giving her all that is an ordeal in itself

I hate seeing her poorly. DH is trying hard not to cry when he's pinning her down to get medicine in her. We've tried every which way but we have to hold her still

Is she able to communicate well?
My son has always got very upset if he feels I'm not listening to him when he's trying to tell me something about being upset or cross. Could you ask her and if you don't understand -make out you do ' I know .... It's ok when you've calmed down we could look at some perry flowers in the garden' type thing! If she can tell you then that's great! I find looking out the window or going outside and talking calmly telling them I love them it's ok to feel sad/ cross etc works for my two. I think it's so frustrating for them sometimes and the heat won't help especially if she's poorly xx

Have you taken her to the docs?

Cuddles all the way. I stay near mine when they get like this until they calm down the cuddle.