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It's all about her

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changedoncemore · 21/06/2014 14:57

I have a 6 year-old dd who cannot cope when the focus is on others. Every party or playdate she is overbearing, won't leave other children alone when they ask her to and has a real meltdown if she doesn't 'win'.

No amount of explaining, telling off or punishment seems to work. Talking about it gets an apology but she can't seem to control herself not to do it again.

She has a real sense of 'entitlement' which I really don't think we've fostered. She is also too rough with her younger sister (18 months) sometimes, and other times can be very kind.

I know she was an only for a while but I genuinely don't think she was/is spoilt. She certainly doesn't get everything she asks for. I am terrified she is going to become 'that child' that others don't want to play with and parents avoid.

She attends a very small village school (mixed R-Year 2 class) where she seems to mix reasonably well although she hasn't a particular 'best friend' and teachers are satisfied with her work.

Any advice on how to get her to understand/control her behaviour? She'll be Year 2 soon and surely should be past acting like a toddler?

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LastingLight · 21/06/2014 16:32

How is she at taking turns?

Maybe role play with her - let her be one of her friends and you be her, then behave in a way that the friend won't like. You can also play with dolls.

When you play games at home, model being a good loser.

Ask her if she would like you to warn her subtly if she is behaving in a way that is going to upset other children. Then work out a code, something like calling her to look at you and then patting your head.

What do you do when she behaves badly at parties and playdates? Do you remove her?

Messygirl · 21/06/2014 16:46

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