Help please .... I think there is something wrong with my ds

[mosschops30]

ds is 20 months and totally 'normal' development wise but has started being quite weird about things being on his hands. This started at the beach when he hated getting sand on his hands and toes, he wont eat a choccie biscuit because it makes a mess on his hands, today he was pointing at biscuit crumbs on his trousers, grizzling until i brushed them off.

If anyone has any advice or experience of this I would be really grateful

I think it's just a phase although my d2 did it at 15 months but I'm not sure

someone that knows more will be along soon

check out hyper sensitivity disorder on google - it was suggested to me that one of my ds's might have this - funny about labels, seeking physical stimulation etc.

I think some children naturally like to be clean - my ds is 4 now and can't sit at the table if ther are any crumbs etc - but doesn't have the condition

oh gosh yes been through this with DS1 - he was really upset if he was at all dirty. If he fell over outside - he wouldn't cry because he'd hurt himself - but because his hands had gravel on them! He was also TERRIFIED of the beach at 2yrs old - refused to even stand on it.

Pleased to say he's definitely improved - when he was 3 we went to the beach again - and coudln't drag him off it - and the mess he got into playing outside this last holidays and looking quite pleased with himself (he's nearly 6) tells me he's now fine with mess.

Oh Mrs Apronstrings dont think I want to look at lots of horror stuff , reassuring about your ds though

thanks HRHQOQ hopefully he will grow out of it, how can i encourage him to get dirty (god never thought I'd hear myself say that

ds2 is still like this (age 4). Won't go to the beach, have to cut out the labels from his clothes, everything is too scratchy, windy, noisy, smelly etc etc. Unless its combined with other problems its not really much of a problem. Best "treatment" is actually lots of exposure to fun messy things- shaving foam play, jelly play, cooked pasta play, foot painting etc.

good question - I not sure how DS1 grew out of it - think it started at nursery - when all his friends were getting messy painting and things - and he was feeling left out.

(Un?)Fortunately don't have the same problem with DS2 (nearly 3) who likes nothing better than to get absolutely caked in mess from head to toe, and to make as much mess as possible.

mosschops - i don't blame you - we never thought there was much wrong with our ds - he just likes to be clean. it was nursery that bought it up - i was quite pleased he didn't want to be sticky - we told teachers they could have him assessed if they wanted to, but i remembered my younger brother being like this and wasn't really worried. School deicided not to bother and like most other posters he seems to have grown out of it at least to some extent

so do I need to speak to someone about this or just see how it goes. Thank you all so much for your quick replies

I would not make an issue of it with him, be patient about things like sand play and finger painting - provide opportunity but don't make him - and see how he is when hes three or so..

just thought you could mention it at his next developmental check up

My brother's dd was like this, to a point where she changed clothes 6 times a day...she grew out of it.