My 17m ds is smacking and throwing

[TheMumsRush]

I just don't know how to handle him. He also throws himself backwards if I pick him up. He's hit my jaw with his head doing this and it really hurts! He's very strong and if his hot something in his hand he can hurt if he hits you with it. Please say it's a faze

hi TheMumsRush sounds like thats a challenge for you but on a positive note most of us have been their i certainly have i have a time out chair this helps alot also i have a rewards system where if my children have a good week listen and do whats asked they get a reward now they dont have to be good all week this would not work but i base it over the week so that on the friday they choose their reward maybe worth a go ? im sure lots of other mums will come along here soon and also offer advice but in all honesty it most likely is a faze hugs

Thanks for replying, it's really getting me down

My 16 month old is a bit like this. My son also I remember going through similar. It's frustration I think. They don't understand what you want them to do or why they have to do it when they probably want to do something else. All very normal. I just keep calm and explain why or what we are doing. I read a lot of the wonder weeks book (think there is an app) when my son was developing. It explains alot about growth and developmental leaps and their frustration in trying to do a new skill.

My 19 month old started hitting (me and other children) a month or two ago, also throws herself backwards sometimes.

I think she's too young to understand time out or rewards tbh. I posted on here and the advice was, she will grow out of it, in the meantime try to encourage what you DO want him to do, so say "gentle hands" a lot and really praise him for being gentle, cuddling etc. Obviously remove him/put him down if he is hurting someone or you, but not as a punishment iyswim.

Thanks x