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Just had a bad bed time

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Bangonthedoor · 17/06/2014 19:37

So I completely just lost it.

Put DD to bed (2.1) and she was playing up as usual. Everything seems to be a battle at the moment and I shamefully admittedly lost it. I didn't smack her....didn't go that far, I shouted at her so loudly I think I mimicked a monster. In fact I would have been horrified if I heard someone else do the same. Now she's gone to sleep...

Que me feeling very guilty and not being able to wait until the morning to give her a big hug.

I'm not the only one that loses control am I?! That's how I feel, like I've lost control, which I suppose I did. I've had a really horrible long day at work, I'm struggling with the sickness in early pregnancy and all I wanted was to have something to eat...god I sound so selfish saying this, I know these aren't excuses.

Any reassurance or tough love out there?

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Meloria · 17/06/2014 20:49

This isn't going to impact on the rest of her life if it's a one off and I doubt she'll even remember in the morning.

Happydaze247 · 17/06/2014 21:13

We had a really crappy bedtime last night. DD (19 months) had been miserable on and off all day and it all came to a head when I was trying to dry and dress her after her bath. She was crying and wriggling even more than normal and I was a little too rough with her. I would normal be really controlled and talk or sing to her to calm her but I'd just had enough of it. Worse still, I then had a rant about what a pita she was and what did I do so wrong to deserve such a nightmare child. It was awful. She was probably unwell and that's how I reacted

I spent most of last night on MN, looking up old threads on the topic. Partly to find some hints and tips on how I could deal with it all a bit better and partly to reassure myself that I am not the world's worst mum.

She's been an angel today, bless her.

Jaffakake · 17/06/2014 21:15

I agree with pp. Don't worry about it. If you still feel bad in the morning, apologise to her & explain why you were sad & give her a hug, the odds are she won't remember.

We all do it. We're all human. We all have good & bad days. I'm on hols at the moment & had a great day, but still lost patience with ds & shouted at him at bedtime!

plotmissinginaction · 17/06/2014 21:17

In the midst if a crap bedtime now. 2.5 hours and counting. Have already snapped at her.

ThursdayLast · 17/06/2014 21:18

You're only human. It's impossible to be serene, calm and reasonable ALL the time.
You can see what you did wrong and feel regret, a truly bad parent wouldn't recognise that.

Have a cuppa, try to relax and forget about it. Get something to eat! Of course it's not selfish to eat in early pregnancy!

MiaowTheCat · 17/06/2014 21:23

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Steben · 17/06/2014 21:27

I have most certainly been there OP please don't beat yourself up. I found either completely ignoring until dd calmed down (just lay on the end not engaging with her/tantrum) she then calmed down. She also got a good girl sticker for good behaviour as well - no charts just a small dot on her door.

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Bangonthedoor · 17/06/2014 21:33

Thanks everyone for your replies

I have since had some 'time out' and feel much better and trying to look forward to tomorrow. Going forward in the future I might introduce stickers for good behaviour at bed time - thank you for that idea steben

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Lovelydiscusfish · 17/06/2014 22:18

Have you got a partner who could support you with bed times? Tonight my dd(2.2 ) started having a bit of a tantrum when I said it was time to get dressed for bed, a and I didn't really know how to respond, but dh came in and asked her to apologise to me, and she did, just like that! I think it gave her a way of backing down somehow, and just helped diffuse the situation (although I know that won't help if you're on your own). Good luck!

clabsyqueen · 19/06/2014 22:51

Gosh. Poor you. It can be tough to give so much of yourself. Making a baby and looking after one. All hard. It's a miracle we find it in ourselves to be civil I reckon. Glad toy had some time out.

Errrr2012 · 20/06/2014 07:38

I could've written your exact post a few days ago. Felt so guilty for shouting at him. but it was a moment of temper which I'm praying he's forgotten. And being pregnant doesn't help. x

Errrr2012 · 20/06/2014 07:38

I could've written your exact post a few days ago. Felt so guilty for shouting at him. but it was a moment of temper which I'm praying he's forgotten. And being pregnant doesn't help. x

Errrr2012 · 20/06/2014 07:38

I could've written your exact post a few days ago. Felt so guilty for shouting at him. but it was a moment of temper which I'm praying he's forgotten. And being pregnant doesn't help. x

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