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balking at the potty - any suggestions?

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nobodysawmedoit · 09/06/2014 08:24

Recently started trying to potty train DS (2.5). He completely understands what it's for, is aware of need to go, etc, and has on a few occasions in the past actually taken himself to the potty and done a poo. All of this was received with lots of praise and congratulations (and chocolate buttons) and he was proud of himself etc. He's never ever been told off for making a mess on the floor or told it was "dirty" or anything like that.

BUT... although he previously willingly had a few goes on the potty, he now refuses to go on it, and if he has his nappy off and needs to go he gets very upset and begs for a nappy on. He will hold it all in for hours until I finally put a nappy on him and then will immediately poo/wee. I've tried asking him what it is about the potty (or toilet) that he doesn't like but he can't express what the problem is. I get the impression he's a bit scared of the feeling of exposure from doing a poo/wee with a bare bottom and prefers to feel it all comfy in his nappy (?!).
Any ideas? I'm afraid I will just make it worse if I keep going with our current methods. I've thought about giving up completely and coming back to it in a month or so but that just seems to be postponing the problem rather than dealing with it.

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GingerRodgers · 09/06/2014 08:32

I've no real experience I'm afraid but any chance you could put an open nappy ontop of the potty? So he can pee/poo feeling 'secure' but still on the potty then gradually remove it as he gets used to it?

Jaffakake · 09/06/2014 12:49

My ds had had a bit of this recently. He's now 2 months shy of turning three. At about 26 months we had a failed potty training attempt as he was clearly unable to regulate it even though he knew what was going on. He had a poo in the bath incident, which resulted in bath refusal /screaming in the bath for over a month and he now holds his willy really tight (poor willy). Whether he really believes by holding it, it's going to stop poo coming out I have no idea. He does know that poo comes from his bottom not his willy! He was desperate to have his nappy put straight back on after a bath, but we're getting back into him running around starkers again now.

My belief is that they suddenly realise they can control it and it kinda scares them a bit and they're happy to go back to being a baby again for a bit.whats the best way to get past it I'm not sure.

We're going to start potty training again after we get back from our holiday in a week as he's now clearly ready.

I've also heard that some kids have a thing about pooing and where the poo goes. I've heard many recommend 'poo goes to Pooland' on YouTube. Obviously we've not got that far ourselves.

nobodysawmedoit · 09/06/2014 13:18

Thanks for the thoughts. Let me know how you get on Jaffakake. My colleague just told me she had similar issue with DS who then miraculously potty trained with no trouble (just lots of biscuits) immediately before turning 3. Fingers crossed.

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