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3 yr little boys - toilet training please help?

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LoveMyGirls · 04/09/2006 13:04

ok im full of questions today! i mind a little boy who is 3 and toilet trained already but he manages to wee on his clothes and the floor quite often - i know this is probably normal behaviour (but only having girls myself i am clueless as to how i stop him doing it) will he just grow out of it? or what do i do?

i do tell him to pull his trousers and pants right down but he still manages it. if he stands up he drips it down him.

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Elibean · 04/09/2006 13:09

No experience with little boys, but just in case you want extra help with this...recommend trying the nappies and potty training section of MN! Hopeless at links, or would do you one...

Blackduck · 04/09/2006 13:12

Does he hold his willy? Certainly helps with ds - he can 'aim' it then...

FrannyandZooey · 04/09/2006 13:15

Either get a toilet seat with a little guard bit on the front and tell him to put his penis behind that bit

or get him to stand up and hold his willy, he has to aim it. A dad to demonstrate and give tips is very useful. Aged 3 they still need a fair bit of help, IME.

Nemo1977 · 04/09/2006 13:15

ds holds his willy or if feeling lazy will lift it over the rim of the loo so it points into it without him having to touch is.

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LoveMyGirls · 04/09/2006 13:15

no he doesnt i wasn't sure if he was meant to because im a childminder and not his mum i have to be careful with this type of thing. i have posted this on the cm board to find out what others do. i imagine its easier with your own child.

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FrannyandZooey · 04/09/2006 13:21

He needs to hold it or sit down. What does he do at home? A potty might be easier for him if he is still learning. Another trick I was told when I worked in a nursery is that you can put your knee up behind their bottom and thereby position his penis without actually touching it, but tbh I would rather explain to a parent that I was holding their child's willy to stop them pissing on the floor, rather than explain why I had my knee up their bum

Nemo1977 · 04/09/2006 13:24

sorry f+Z just had image of 3yr old going home and not able to pee so trying to get mummy to put her knee behind him. I think if he is sitting or standing just tell him to hold his willy..when ds peed on potty used to tell him to point it down have never had to physically show him.

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LoveMyGirls · 04/09/2006 13:25

pmsl f&z ill have a word with his mum when she comes as i also need to tell her again to bring him spare clothes as not being able to leave the house is a nightmare (because his clothes are wet) - luckily we're ok today as his swimming shorts were still here from when we had the pool out.

the other day was a nightmare i popped to my mums who has a downstairs loo he went without telling me and wee'd on the floor then left the door open so dd2 (11mths) went in and crawled round the loo and got covered in wee as well! yuck!

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mymama · 05/09/2006 10:10

md ds2 (3 on 22nd Sept) does this also sometimes. I find my ds actually needs to take his pants right off. The don't have much coordination directing the wee at that age (think what happens when they get hold of garden hose). I tend to still let my little one sit on the seat or I hold it for him still.

Sugarmagnolia · 05/09/2006 10:50

If he prefers to sit down get him to sit with his bum right down in the toilet and push his willy down. Alternatively a toilet seat with a little guard on the front helps.

My DS is just over 3 and I thought he was too young (and too short) to stand up, but I went away for a few days and left him alone with his daddy. And guess what daddy taught him?! Actually, he did a bl**dy good job of it - almost never misses! Here's how he does it:

Make sure he has a little stool or step to stand on
Have him hold his willy with his right hand and point it at the water.
(And this is the clever bit) Get him to place his left hand on the back of the toilet seat (as if to hold it up). This forces him to lean right over the toilet and seriously improves aim!

Also, whether sitting or standing make sure he pulls his trousers and pants right down to his ankles.

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LoveMyGirls · 05/09/2006 11:07

thanks for the tips we will work on it and fingers crossed no more accidents, his mum hasn't bought him a spare change of clothes today (i did ask) and we have the school run so really cant afford any accidents today especially as he's wearing jeans and they will take ages to dry!

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Sugarmagnolia · 05/09/2006 11:47

By the way - I think it's really not on for the mum not to provide you with spare clothes! I always made sure my childminder had at least 2 changes of clothes for DS. She rarely had to use them but on the odd occassion that she did I would wash them and return them to her the next day.

You could ask her if she has some things he's just grown out of that would do in an emergency and just keep them at your place.

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LoveMyGirls · 05/09/2006 14:12

i dont think she's not bringing them on purpose more just forgets to bring them, ill ask again tonight although the tips ive had so far have worked quite well - i think it was just my inexperience of boys that made it seem harder than it is iyswim.

im new to childminding, only been doing it 4 months and i only have dd1 to go by and obviously she's a girl and is now 7 so its been a long time.......ill get there im sure

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Sugarmagnolia · 05/09/2006 14:58

I know what you mean. My first is a girl so when it came time to toilet train DS I had to ask for lots of advice as well! Good luck.

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