What 'house rules' do you have for your 18/19/20 month olds?

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I've just started to realise we are coming out of the 'baby stage' and hurtling into the toddler stage! I have started to get conscious that I'm fairly relaxed about things when we are at home...he's only just started walking too which brings more challenges.

For example, he often has a snack when he asks or while playing, if he won't lie down for a nappy change or sit still to get dressed I do it on-the-move ninja style, if he won't eat his meal in his highchair I'll let him sit on my lap or give him something else, if he demands a certain toy/activity I usually give it to him or to go upstairs/down/outside, i let him fiddle with my phone and other things that probably aren't very appropriate (safely of course!), we don't always tidy away toys...and so on! Nothing major - and some of these are just typical toddler behaviour! - but I'm aware this makes for a slightly chaotic lifestyle for us and could easily become bad habits as he gets older.

I'm going to start with sitting nicely for snacks/meals, but not sure what else is important or realistic at this age!

So what are yours 'non negotiable' rules for your young toddler?

23 months

No throwing toys (usually means she's ready for nap/bed)
No climbing on tables
Not to touch the TV cupboard
No poking other people's eyes

We're working on tidying up toys and being quiet when your baby brother (4m) is asleep. Or not shouting "BABY" into the Moses basket at least

I didn't think I had many but thinking about it, I have quite a few most of which are on here already!

Kind Hands - with the cat, books, people. I follow up with a cuddle to say sorry if he hurts me/breaks something etc.
No throwing - anything thrown from the highchair means the tray is cleared, although he gets it back if he obviously wants it.
Eating happens while sitting, either in the highchair or on his stool.
DO NOT touch the cat litter tray (located next to the stairs so he's always supervised when around it)
Shoes, coats and reins live in the hall and are removed before we go through to play.

DS is coming up 19 months.

Dd tidies, sits on carpet for stories quietly, no climbing, no running inside, eats appropriately, shares, doesnt run inside, says please and thank you, collect own cutlery, put away after meal, always throw rubbish in bin etc. She is 26 months so just the usual really

I try to say things in a positive way, but essentially, the requirements (always praised, especially if done without being asked) are:

Please / thank you - which she's been doing since she was 11 months anyway,generally without prompting, she's incredibly well mannered

No hitting / biting / shouting at mummy or daddy or DS (time out for these)

Share nicely with DS - if they fight over a toy I take it away now as it's getting a bit intense lately with tug o' wars over things...who knew 11/22 month olds could be so strong!

Walking is done on a wrist strap as mummy is pushing the pram so she needs to be on the strap, it isn't optional

Meals/ drinks / snacks all take place sitting down, no drinks or food on the sofa.

She also helps tidy up toys, although I'm not regimental about this if we're in a rush, and she's always happy to do it anyway as loves helping, but she is learning tidy habits (long may they last!) and if I've asked her not to do something and she does it, I.e. don't empty the big box of blocks out please, it's time for lunch, and she deliberately ignores me and does it anyway, I make her pick them up. This has only happened once and I supervised her picking up every block and it's never happened since. It took AGES but it was a good investment!

My basic rule is if I've asked her to do something, I see it through, and if I've said there will be a consequence if she does something I've asked her not to do, again there is a consequence. I say what I mean and I mean what I say and as a rule she's very good because she understands I don't bend.

No standing up in the bath

Rules that had to be enforced:
No hitting

No throwing toys
Sit/stand still while eating & drinking
No throwing food/utensils/plates on the floor (plate&glass gets taken away for a bit, given back after a minute or two. if he does it again mealtime is over)
We lie down for nappy changes (had a few battles with that one, but he now goes and lies down by himself, though i do usually give him a few warnings before we change (ie. shall we change your nappy now? no, ok, we'll go in 2 minutes))
Chargers and lights can be plugged in/out, but no appliances (he had a massive obsession)
Must hold hands outside when asked (usually by roads)
We drink water at night (unless poorly, then he can have boob)
No diggers in bed (oh the battles with that one)
No touching hot things (like pans, utensils, hot food, whatever)

Currently working on (at 23 months):
No getting out of bed at bed time
Finish your food before you get more (the new/bigger stuff always looks better than what's half-eaten)
Please