Hitting Kids

[LeanneMM]

My son is 3 been in nursery since 6 months old and started a pre school nursery last year he won't stop hitting other kids but not being angry he thinks he is playing as he loves superheros I have tried everything he gets time out every day in nursery and we have gave him a row explained he is hurting people he won't pay attention when we speak jus looks away and can be so rough when he is playing I don't know how much more I can take with the complaints from nursery and him not listening has anyone had anything similar ?

I would ask for a meeting with the nursery manager to ask what strategies they are using to manage this and how they plan to develop them.

You can only do so much when he is in their care. They are the ones there when it is happening. They should be trying different strategies, observing him and recording the triggers and what, if anything, is successful. If time out isn't working they should be trying something else. If they don't feel able to deal with it they should be asking for support from their own advisors.

They should also be supervising him more closely so they can anticipate the hitting and intervene to protect the other children and redirect him so he learns more appropriate ways to express himself.

They hav said thy will get a plan in place but may be after summer which is so far away now and I don't want him getting worse before end of aug I'm crying my eyes out thinking about it I'm considering going to dr to check if this is normal behaviour he promises he will be a good boy and never keeps the promise

After the summer is far too long! They need to have a plan now and be implementing it immediately.

This is their responsibility and they are not living up to it. They need to give your son the support and the environment which will enable him to keep his promises.

If he loves superheros I'm.guessing he must be watching it? Stop the TV with violence if so. My ds would copy stuff like that so we stopped what seemed like harmless TV but actually was condoning hitting.

I agree they are prioritising the school kids over his age group as they said they have graduations to deal with

As for the tv that has stopped he watched cbeebies and disney jnr now no tv with violence bt doesnt stip him acting it out with toys n teddys and i knw boys like tondo things like this bt i cant have him hitting other kids he thinks he is playing but doesnt realise the strength he has he also says other kids hit him bt the nursery are telling me they dont so i dont know if he is lying or if the nursery are just not seeing this as he doesnt tell them when it happens and the other kids do

they said they have graduations to deal with

That is a pathetic excuse for not meeting the needs of a child who is struggling to behave appropriately in their environment!

Is this the only setting you could send him to? He may be better somewhere else.

This is the nursery that would let him into the local school and wouldnt want to change the schools inam going to speak to them tomorrow also has a dr app to rule out there is no behaviour problems as his attention span isnt great either

Are you sure that a nursery place makes a difference to the school admission? It's worth checking that before making a decision to keep him there on that basis.

If you think there may be a neurological or physical reason behind the behaviour a GP appointment is a good idea. However, whatever the reason for his behaviour, the nursery need to take a more professional approach to this.