Severe language delay- Neighbour is complaining

[adrianna22]

Hi

I have a DS who has a severe language delay.

He will thump and bang out of frustration, also due to the fact he cannot get what he wants.

My neighbour made out a complaint against me, regarding DS that he makes too much noise and I apologised and I explained that DS has a severe language delay and acts out very physical, which I try to stop him from doing anyway.

I have been trying out a new discipline approach with my DS. But because, he jumps on the floor, because he is angry and cries quite loud. I have stopped doing the naughty corner.

Is there anyway that I can discipline my DS without him making too much noise.

poor you. could signing help reduce his frustration? And what are you doing to help him, because if he can be helped, he may be less likely to have these frustation phases. Have you tried putting him in a quiet room until he calms down, this works for ds ? you definitely need to teach him to stop banging...how old is he?

Poor DS :(

I don't think you can really help the banging though? I mean the neighbour will just have to lump it, it's not like you're mistreating him.

I assume you're getting support with the language delay but it's just one of those things which takes time. It might be worth asking his speech therapist or other professional about appropriate discipline since it might differ if he has problems expressing himself, and especially if he has trouble understanding as well.

You could look at some gentle parenting techniques which might be more helpful than punitive ones? www.ahaparenting.com is very good. General principle being you think about the values you want to instil and model/encourage/praise these. Have your boundaries decided and gently but firmly just physically prevent him from crossing those boundaries. No need to add an additional punishment on top. Make sure your boundaries are fair, logical and age appropriate. With his language delay it might be worth keeping the guidelines for very small toddlers, which is explain things in as few words as possible, give warnings and reminders about what is going to happen e.g. if a change is coming up. Measure time in units they understand (3 sleeps, 2 goes on the slide, 1 episode of thomas - things they are actually doing at the time) rather than minutes etc.

Try to enable him to do well, give him the tools to behave rather than punishing when he falls short. Sometimes there will need to be consequences but keep them fair and low key especially if you think he's trying hard.

Hi

Thanks ralphi for replying- his four, he does lot of signing, pictures etc. But he still gets frusta red.

Thanks Bertie for your detailed response, I'll try exactly that. Thanks for the link, I'll have a look at it now.

how old is your son, Adrianna?

4