Help with clingy 3.5 year old DD

[OhMyActualDays]

DD is 3.5. She has been clingy with me since about 9 months and I feel suffocated! I need to know it is going to end! She goes to nursery term time every day (I am a full time teacher) with no worries, doesn't cry, gets cross if I pick her up early. She is very confident there and very good. Likewise, if I go out she has a lovely time with her dad or I can leave her with my mum with no worries. But if I am around she is dreadful- follows me about, won't talk to other people, won't play with other children, won't take herself the loo. She is fine if the two of us are alone, but both of us with other people, including DH, and it is a nightmare. I just came upstairs for a rest as she is an early riser but she just cries and follows me up. Any ideas? It is honestly ruining every social occasion we go to, and I feel so done with being climbed on etc all the time!

No answers for you, but I have EXACTLY the same problem! So I'm going to wait here till someone comes along with the answers (as DD sleeps soundly away next to me)

This is hard to tackle. At their age they are egotistical and find it almost impossible to understand others emotions. There is also a tiny bit of attachment difficulty / rivalry going on. Your her mummy you should give all your attention to her and not anyone else.
Try some little activities such as turn taking with you dd and dad. You roll a ball to dad he rolls it to dd she rolls it to you. Go that way for a few turns then reverse it. Use different ideas. Mummy turn pushing swing daddy's turn. Always say mummy's turn. Daddy's turn etc
Turn take tickles and raspberries.
Then turn taking with cuddles. Each person chooses who they are going to cuddle.
Practice then and now. Use a two minute egg timer to start. Mummy stand in hall ffion stay with daddy until timer finished and mummy back. Practice practice and extend time over weeks. Don't move too quick on it.
Use close friend and turn take games with her.
This all under pins waiting , that you come back.
It's not a quick fix but this and her maturing means it will stop.
Good luck.

Also a reward chart. If she lets you make the bed whilst she plays with dad. Big smiley face in box and a sticker. Goal at the end is a magazine or something. She gets it quite quickly at first then drag out time. Lots of praise. Try not to get cross or sound cheesed off when she follows you as she will feel rejection and crave more attention. It's hard especially when you feel touched out.