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Moving baby into own room

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DuskyPinkRoses · 18/05/2014 21:14

My DD has just turned 6 months but I'm not sure I'm ready to move her to her own room, for no real reason other than I feel anxious about it. She has a beautiful nursery waiting for her. I know she can't be in with us forever but I like to be able to hear her moving/breathing when she's lying in her cot next to me. Please help me rationalise this or she'll still be in with us when she's a teenager!!

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TheScience · 18/05/2014 21:16

I don't think not moving her at 6 months means she'll still be in with you as a teenager. Do you need/want to move her now particularly?

GeordieMama · 18/05/2014 21:20

My DS has just turned 7 months and I'm not ready yet. Just because they reach the minimum recommended age doesn't mean you have to move them if you're not ready. I'm sure she'll be out by the time she hits 13
Don't be so hard on yourself, move at your own pace.

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DuskyPinkRoses · 18/05/2014 21:22

I was joking about the teenager thing! HV said to move her out now she's 6 months and all the guidance I've read says they should be in with you for the first 6 months so I feel like I should move her now. All my mummy friends have moved their babies into their own rooms now, some before 6 months.

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TheScience · 18/05/2014 21:23

I wouldn't do something just because everyone else is - do it when it is right for you and your baby.

spottydolphin · 18/05/2014 21:24

agree with others. no reason to move her if you don't want to.

mine have all stayed in with me for as long as possible. partly because I liked having them with me and partly because who can be bothered to schlep to a whole other room for night feeds??

Jaffakake · 18/05/2014 21:46

Do what feels right to you. My ds moved out at about 3 months just cos he, the cat & the husband were all snoring & I was losing my mind! (I should've moved & left them to it!)

They're little for such a short time, do what feels right as their mummy x x

Mrsantithetic · 18/05/2014 22:16

I've only just moved dd in to here and she is 20 months old!!

Only moved her because I'm 7 months pregnant and there isn't room for two cots

tmae · 19/05/2014 15:19

I agree with others and would say move her when you feel ready. My DS is very tall and is outgrowing his crib and our room is too small for his combed so I may have to move him earlier (he is 4 months) but if I do, I plan on sleeping in his room until I feel ready.

deepinthewoods · 19/05/2014 15:22

No rules, we co- slept with our children till they were around 4 years old. It suited us well.

HeyBungalowBill · 19/05/2014 15:35

I decided to move DS into his own room when he filled his Moses basket. He was also starting to sleep longer in the night and him being in his own room helped him to sleep longer and stopped me jumping up as soon as he cried which stopped him self settling where he would have if I'd have left him. He started sleeping through within a week or two of being in his own room.

What sort of sleeping pattern is your little one doing currently?
If you are happy with how much sleep you all are getting and how things are currently then that is fine I think

HeyBungalowBill · 19/05/2014 15:35

And by sleeping through I mean at least 10 hours, usually 7:30-7:30

LettertoHerms · 19/05/2014 15:44

Guidelines are just that, guidelines, not hard and fast rules, and six months is just the minimum recommended age. Do what is right for you and your family. If you want her close in this short baby time, keep her close.

ChazzerChaser · 19/05/2014 15:48

Move them when you like. 6 months reads to me as a minimum rather than a maximum. Mine is still in my room as I like to have him there, and I prefer to have him near when he wakes up in the morning for a feed to I don't have to get out of bed. He also sometimes wakes momentarily, and when he sees me settles back down so I think it helps with having a settled night. Do what suits you. They'll get there (and you will!) in their own time.

Rubberstamp · 19/05/2014 15:50

I moved mine a few weeks ago at almost 4 months exactly. I get far more sleep and she now sleeps through 7-7. But it's what works for you - so take the guidelines with a pinch of salt and if you want to keep her there until she's a teenager, go ahead.

NorthEasterlyGale · 19/05/2014 16:13

Ah, leave her be if you're both happy with it. Plenty of time to move her when you feel comfortable with it. You'll get to the point where you want to move her because you'll sleep better, not because you feel you should. Enjoy it while it lasts!

DS1 only got moved at 18 months because I was due to have DS2 a couple of months later (and because his room wasn't finished any sooner)! DS2 will be staying put until we can be bothered to sort the big room for the boys to share.

Koothrapanties · 19/05/2014 16:14

Dd is 7 months and we aren't ready to move her yet. I think we will probably move her at around a year.

NickyEds · 19/05/2014 16:22

DS is 5 months and OH has been making LOTS of noises about us moving back into our room (we have a double bed in the nursery so we've been in with him). DS is sleeping through and has a reasonable routine so wants to do it this weekend. I'm sure he'd be fine but I'll cry like a baby!!

ILoveCwtches · 19/05/2014 16:24

Dd is still in with us. She's 13mo. We only have a 1 bedroomed flat at the moment but are (hopefully) moving, in the next few weeks.

I'm looking forward to having a 2 bed place, but am dreading having to make the decision over where dd sleeps. I won't be moving her until she's settled in and is familiar with the new place etc but I'm not looking forward to it!

Move her when you feel ready. I'm hoping moving dd will help her sleep better, as she's terrible, but even that doesn't make me want to do it, it's just a potential plus point!

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DuskyPinkRoses · 19/05/2014 16:53

Thanks for all the replies. It's great to hear that others feel the same and haven't immediately moved their LO's at 6 months. DD's actually a really good sleeper. She sleeps 7-7 with a dream feed at 10ish. The reluctance is totally on my part. I'm sure she wouldn't notice any difference if I moved her but I just don't feel ready to do it yet. I'm just going to wait until it feels right. Thanks again xx

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MumOfTheMoos · 19/05/2014 19:38

We moved DS out at 6mths and tbh if I had that time with him again wouldn't have done it. I don't see the rush. Listening to my DS breathing as he sleeps is one of my favourite things.

We have a video monitor so I make do with that on my bedside table instead!

If you're not ready then keep him with you!

MumOfTheMoos · 19/05/2014 19:39

We moved DS out at 6mths and tbh if I had that time with him again wouldn't have done it. I don't see the rush. Listening to my DS breathing as he sleeps is one of my favourite things.

We have a video monitor so I make do with that on my bedside table instead!

If you're not ready then keep him with you!

bouncinbean · 19/05/2014 19:52

DD is 11 months and only just starting to sleep consistently and not need a midnight feed, so we're starting to do her room ;-) we've got guests coming for her 1st birthday party and it's currently a spare room so I reckon she'll be in their at about 13 months!!!

neversleepagain · 19/05/2014 21:50

I moved my twins when they were 7.5 months. I couldn't wait to get my space back and to get dressed/undress with the light on, read a book and not have to tiptoe to the loo. That didn't stop me crying when DH moved their cots to their bedroom

Move her when you feel ready, there are no rules.

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