Not responding to name at nine months

[Parkbench123]

Hi, my 9month son has never responded to his name even when I say it repeatedly, but has excellent hearing - wakes up or stops feeding at the slightest sound. He also won't look where I'm looking or pointing. His eye contact is very good when he wants to and shocking when he's more interested in something else. He's very smily. He has imitated me clapping or waving in past, but hasn't these past weeks. As a first time mum, I'm worried about autism. Anyone else had a nine month old like this, but ended up ok? My internet search just screams "your child has autism" to me!

Mrsdevere, your comments are really helpful. I did wonder if you maybe worked in the field... Very sensible practical stuff! Thank you. I think it can actually be harder when you know a bit about what to do, and it's so different when it comes to your own kids.

Playing with my ds becomes "Play therapy". Not that he has any interest in playing "with" me, however animated I am. I can get his attention if I play peekaboo or very obviously break his attention from what he's doing, but it just always feels like such hard work. I'll keep playing peekaboo and singing to him, and I like the idea of letting him choose stuff. Thanks for the tips!

If you don't mind me asking Adrianna22 what where your dc symptoms/delays?

Thank you for all the comments. I'm going to look into a bit of ABA I think too.

I wondered, has anyone had a child who learnt own name and became more responsive at ten months or a wee bit later? Clarabum, I know you mentioned your dd didn't learn name til 10 months - what was she like at 9 months?

Can I still hope that he will engage with me now, or once they've missed the 7/8 month milestone, it that generally it?

For what it's worth, my son isn't autistic but had profound language delays and only learnt that his name is his name at 3.

Try not to see everything as autism versus non-autism as people (including people with autism) are more complicated and interesting than that.

"Can I still hope that he will engage with me now....."

Hell yes.

Bumping- I'm pretty much in the same situation except he's now 13 months and showing all the traits of autism. Even my GP agrees but basically says there is nothing we can do yet as he is too young 🙄. How did you get on with your boy?

I’m in the same position, my son is 9 months. How did you get on?

Please update with us how is your baby? Having same fear and worries.

@Chocolateeggs @zbw565

What are your concerns with your little ones?? I’m feeling so worked too about my little 7 month old :(

@Parkbench123 - how did things work out for you? Did you do the ABA? Please respond if you can I’m so worried x

Hello

Hope every one is doing well during Coronavirus pandemic.
I am new to mumsnet and want to share my
concerns regarding my 6 month old.
I already have a 27 month old with complex needs she was born with severe brain injury due to placental abruption.
I give birth to another healthy girl on Dec 2019 although I had complicated pregnancy.
She is 6 month old now and I get severe anxiety in regards to her development I have listed what she does and what she doesn’t. I am extremely anxious about signs of autism.

• [ ] Staring into space
• [ ] not looking into my eyes when being held
• [ ] Not responding to her name
• [ ] Does not startle to loud noises and doesn’t respond
• [ ] Stopped babbling and no syllable at all
• [ ] Staring in to objects more than faces
• [ ] No affection anxiety at all and no signs of affection to caregiver
• [ ] She does not bounce her legs when feet are placed on a firm surface
• [ ] Not babbling
• [ ] Not sitting unsupported

• [x] She does roll over back to front at 6 months
• [x] She does make eye contact while feeding and sometime playing
• [x] She laughs sometime when we play with her
• [x] She brings everything to her mouth
• [x] She does respond to sounds when she is not distracted at all
• [x] She does look briefly into mirror and smile
• [x] She is reaching for toys
• [x] She makes some noises sometime
• [x] Can sit with support and can sit unsupported for few seconds

Would please share any experience as I cannot function as a normal person.

Hi all!
I’m a first time mum & 23. Both of my parents have passed away so really have no help or support, My son is 9.5 months old and isn’t responding to his name? Google tells me that he’s got Autism and I’m really starting to worry. The more I think about it the more it looks like he might. He is crawling, pulling up and walking when holding onto mine or my husbands hands or his walker. He was babbling a lot but recently stopped. He isn’t waving or clapping hands yet either. I’m really starting to worry! Have any of you had this and your child turn out not to have autism?

Hi Any update from your LO will be helpful. Please help I am worried thinking my baby is not responding to his name and I have noticed some other things which google says could be sign of autism. Please let us know how is your LO doing now?

Hello, I’m sorry this is a few years on but I wondered how this resolved? My little girl is 11
months next week and I am having the same concerns xx

Sorry to message so many years on, my little girl is 11 months old and is the same. I’m wondering if you could let me know how your LO is and hopefully provide some reassuance xx

my little girl is 11 months old and is the same. I’m wondering if you could let me know how your LO is and hopefully provide some reassuance xx

Not sure if you can help but I'm a bit concerned about my 9 month old boy , he does babble and make noises, hes regularly says 'yeah' he did say mama a few times but not recently, he's made noises that sound like dada, na and nan, but mainly yeah at the moment, he does give you eye contact, and will try grab my face if close enough, he smiles and laughs at you and at things, but he doesn't seem to really respond when we say his name, he's never blown raspberries and he doesn't try and copy you for example if you clap, should I be concerned?

@Parkbench123

Thank you for all the comments. I'm going to look into a bit of ABA I think too.

I wondered, has anyone had a child who learnt own name and became more responsive at ten months or a wee bit later? Clarabum, I know you mentioned your dd didn't learn name til 10 months - what was she like at 9 months?

Can I still hope that he will engage with me now, or once they've missed the 7/8 month milestone, it that generally it?

@Parkbench123 would be great to hear an update on your LO

Hi @Parkbench123 @MumOfHals @Kaya94 how are your LOs doing now? 🙂

Not a hint of autism! Not responding to their own name at that age (or for quite a while after) definitely doesn’t mean anything at all. He’s super social, doing really well at school and neurotypically 100% “normal”. Would love to tell my younger new mum self to relax, stop caring about milestones and enjoy those precious baby moments. He’s 11 now and these magical years fly by so quickly. That said, 11 year old boys are also awsome 🥰

@Parkbench123 thank you so much for the update! My 2 year old is autistic and never showed any signs until he regressed at 13 months and lost everything he had learnt. He responded to name and my voice at 4 months old and now doesn’t and isn’t verbal and has minimal understanding and his stimming can be quite bad😭
my 7.5 month old son doesn’t show any signs apart from he literally doesn’t respond to my voice ever or his name when I call it but does most of the time to other people but with my 2 year old being autistic I know there’s a higher chance my second is. Looking back my first never once slept and flapped his arms quite a lot but developed and met all milestones before he regressed! It’s so hard not to worry as my 2 year old is very hard work and it’s so hard seeing “typical” children out and seeing my son struggle so much,

your update has made me feel a little more hopeful so thank you! 🤞🤞 my second is fine x

I would love to hear how your LOs are doing now. my daughter is 15 months and I am constantly worrying about her development. She doesn't point, wave, show any signs of joint attention, doesn't bring me toys, doesn't engage in two way interaction, doesn't understand any commands. I spend most days wondering if she has Autism or if there is something wrong with her. She is extremely active, although not yet walking without holding my hand. When she is happy she is the most smiley baby, but when she is unsettled she cries a lot, often for know obvious reason. She also likes any toys that have something she can spin. She says mama, dada, baba but doesn't know what they mean. She does now respond to my name and claps occasionally. She does smile and laugh in response to us. But she doesn't follow my gaze. Is this unusual for a 15 month old? She did have severe reflux as a baby and some have said they can be late in their development because of this...

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Hi @Rd03 I am on same boat with my baby.Could you please let know from which month your baby started to reapond to name? Could you please provide some tips for improving name response please.
what is pediatriacian saying about all this?

Hi @Saiaryal24 We just kept using her name and eventually she started responding to it. I think it was maybe around 11 months. I wouldn't say she always responds to it though. If she is focused on something else she will completely ignore me no matter how many times I say her name. We have a paediatrician appointment on Monday so I will let you know what she says then. Last time she saw the paediatrician several months ago, so said lots of her delays in certain areas could be because she suffered severe reflux as a baby. But as more time goes on the more I worry that it is less likely to be that.