My nearly 6 year old daughter's behaviour has been causing huge distress to us all. She has tantrums every time she doesn't get her own way. She has been like this since she is 2, and I have reached the end of my tether. When she was younger, I told myself this will pass, but it hasn't. Surely it should have by now? She causes a huge fuss, crying, shouting and screaming. She is very loud, which draws stares from people. I get so embarrassed, I could cry (and sometimes do!) We took her and her brother out for the day recently, and she had a tantrum in front of possibly a hundred people. I was mortified. We would really like to take them out tomorrow for the day, but I just can't face another situation like before. It seems so unfair on our son though.
She doesn't just tantrum when she doesn't get her own way. She flares up over the littlest thing. We feel like we are treading on egg shells with her. I am getting really quite depressed over her behaviour now. I have stopped inviting people round and I try and make excuses when we are invited out with people. We are very loving with her, and I have a very good relationship with her. When she is being lovely and happy, I try and talk to her about when she is feeling cross and frustrated but she refuses to talk about it, covers her ears, runs out of the room or starts shouting at me again!
She is angelic at school, has lots of friends and on the whole has a very happy life. I am struggling to understand why she behaves like she does.
Life is becoming quite unhappy for us all, and I need help, but I'm not sure where to turn.