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Jealous siblings born from frozen embyos

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ccbaxter · 30/04/2014 21:57

New to this, so please bear with me. I have two children - boy aged 12 and girl aged 8. Frozen as embryos, from the same batch of harvested eggs, but defrosted 4 years apart. They are ferociously jealous of each other and spend every waking moment in competition with each other, and fighting for my attention. The younger is the most dominant and has always wanted to do everything double quick, as if she were desperate to catch up with her older brother. One of those babies who wanted to sit up when she should just be rolling over, walking when others were just crawling etc. Exhausting. My husband and I have a strange theory (that others have remarked upon) that perhaps they should have been twins (I think I'm right in saying that medically they kind of are, being conceived and frozen at the same time) and that our daughter and son should really have been the same age. If you met them, you'd think they possibly were: others have made that mistake. She is almost the same height, reads as well, writes as well etc. And she is also a huge tom-boy. Q: has anyone else, with a similar history, experienced anything like this? We'd just be interested to know whether there is a pattern...or whether anyone has done any research into this? Thanks

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naty1 · 30/04/2014 22:20

No well twins are just siblings who shared womb at same time. (Environmental similarities)
Girls do do things earlier on average.
I read ivf kids do better at school so maybe just that and she has him to copy.
We had no frosties so cant say.

estya · 30/04/2014 22:46

I'd recommend the book 'siblings without rivalry'.

SilveryMoon · 30/04/2014 22:51

I have 2 children. Both boys and without your history and both my boys are very jealous/competitive.
There's 18 months between them. The younger one is very close to the first one ability wise, maybe even a little ahead in some areas.
Girls do tend to mature and do things quicker than boys as do younger siblings

Nocomet · 30/04/2014 23:08

Just a phase siblings go through when the younger one realises what being younger means and don't like it.

I have a laid back, dyslexic DD1 and a directly competitive, best reader in the class DD2.

From ~5 to 8 DD2 had to win everything and threw massive tantrums and stormed off if she didn't. She also really liked the world to be organised according to her rules. She simply hated being the youngest.

This was despite the fact that she read far better at 6 than DD1 did 9 (there is 3 years between them).

With DD1 it wasn't just her sister who coped it, in fact DD1 mostly got off fairly lightly, it was a general uncooperativeness and need to be in control. I guess because she felt, being youngest, her opinion counted least.

In fact DD2's opinion was usually factored in first, because everyone else liked a quiet life.

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