Doc appt for DS re bed wetting

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DS is just about to turn 7 and is still wetting the bed every night, he is now very conscious of it and doesn't really like to talk about it. We have recently tried an alarm which had a disastrous effect on him and he got so stressed and upset about the whole thing, we ditched it. As a last resort I have made an appointment at the doctor for him to discuss it with them. The only problem is that he really will not want to tell her all about it and how it's stressing him and me out etc etc so do you think it's ok to make the appt in his name and then not take him with me but I go on my own and explain the situation to the doctor???

How about chatting to the school nurse instead? They'd be more experienced with assisting with this and can help support both you and your child.

My ds was late becoming dry at night, and was about 6 when he cracked it. The school nurse was most helpful.

Maybe you can take him with you and leave him in the waiting room while you go in to see the doc? Then he is there if doc wants to examine him or talk to him.

I think you need to take him, one of the things the Dr will do is test a urine sample to check for infections. You have my sympathy, we're going through this too with my 7 year old, sounds like we're a bit further along in the system...I've not found the magic bullet yet, we keep being told that he will grow out of it. I'm sure he will, but it doesn't help an upset child does it?

I feel for you totally, my son is 12 now and is still on occasions wetting the bed, he won't sleep at friends and doesn't want to go on residential trips with school etc. He takes desmomelt and oxybutin for it, of he didn't take them he would wet every night. The story goes... He was dry at night and day by 3 year old, then at 5 he started messing himself in the day (faeces) so worked hard to get him out of that and I think it just stopped! Then at 6 he started every night wetting the bed, I was getting so frustrated and shouting at him for doing it, thinking it was an attention thing, but as time has gone by a diary had been kept and it shown no pattern of anything in particular. We were referred to the enuresis clinic and put on desmomelt, it worked for a bit then she put him on oxybutin because he wasn't drinking enough and these make them thirsty.
Here's a couple of tips I've learned on the way:
No fizzy or caffeinated drinks at all.
No drinks 2-3 hours before bed.
Make sure they drink at least 2 litres of water a day, sounds crazy but it helps.
Send them to the loo an hour before bed, half an hour before bed, then when they go to bed, this ensures their bladder is completely empty.
Never shout at them for wetting the bed.
I hope some of this has helped!! I've had many years of it!

I know someone who used to be a rep for an enuresis drug and they found that star charts and other positive reinforcements worked wonders alongside medication (if deemed necessary).

Certainly don't do what a health visitor once told my mum when she was struggling with my sister's bedwetting - put on a patterned sheet at night, then when it gets wet, swap it for a plain one and tell the child the pattern got washed away

Good luck with the appointment.