My 10 month old cries when being held by close family/friends

[elsbells11]

Hi Everyone! I am very new to this but i'm hoping someone can reassure me. I have a 10 month old baby girl who is absolutely fine with myself, daddy and older brother but for some reason hates anyone else holding her.
This includes both sets of grandparents, close friends and strangers.
She had meningitis when she was 3 months old and was in hospital for a week and despises doctors who go anywhere near her. Even just walking into the doctors (or anywhere with horrible strip lighting for that matter) really makes her agitated.
Other people keep telling me it could be from being so ill that she doesn't like other people so close to her but i'm thinking maybe some babies just simply don't feel comfortable around other people apart from us who she obviously knows very well.
I understand babies can go through a separation anxiety phase but it's pretty much been since she was a few months old up until now and no sign of her getting any better being held by others as yet.
I guess i am just starting to get a little worried.
She is genuinely happy with us and smiles, laughs and babbles but i'm sure other people don't believe me as she instantly switches to crying if anyone else turns up at the door.
Any advise very very welcome!

My DS is like that, his 8 months old! He is very particular about who can hold/touch/come close to him! I think it's a personality thing?
My DS HATES big groups of babies and his not keen on Loud people coming to our house! I personally am not so keen on people in my space or touching me but love cuddling up to DH and still love being close to my parents!

I would say don't worry about it!

My daughter was scared of being held by other family members when she was about 6 months old. She screamed blue murder when I left her with my mother for five minutes at the airport because despite being family, she simply didn't know her. After a few months the shyness left her and she readily approaches total strangers to say hello. I don't know what happened other than we moved into a busier area with more people around. Perhaps she needs to get used to having new people around? A playpark could be the answer.

My dd was exactly the same and actually is still a bit like it at 2.5 years! She wanted to be held by me all the time and would cry if any other family member or friends approached or held her...even my mum who she sees at least once a week! It used to really stress me out but in the end I just accepted that's how she was and it did get better with age, although if me or dh are there she will never still go to anyone else, she just doesn't cry now and says she wants to stay with mummy.

I forgot to say she absolutely hates the doctors too and cries whenever we go....she has never had an experience like your poor dd she just seems to hate the place!