Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Behaviour/development

Talk to others about child development and behaviour stages here. You can find more information on our development calendar.

Almost 4 year old fears and scared

5 replies

Macey78 · 22/04/2014 20:15

We have a lovely dd 3 yrs 9 months who seems to have developed a fear of the dark. We reassure her that we are here and that we wouldn't let anything happen. Is insisting that the bed side lamp is left on.

Also in the day when we are upstairs she won't go downstairs on her own. Saying she's scared. Up until a couple of weeks ago she would come down and play go to the toilet no problem.

Any advice welcomed.
Are there any books that I could read to her?

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
hotcrosshunny · 22/04/2014 20:18

Normal. I would acknowledge her fears not brush them aside by saying its fine. I remember being terrified at that age! My DS has a fear of the dark - we sit with him at bedtime, explain what the dark is and I also told him that I used to be scared as a little girl as well. He seems much better now (4.5). He also shares with his sister which helps.

Macey78 · 22/04/2014 20:22

Thanks hot cross. I'll make more of an effort to acknowledge her fears. DH is very good at this.
Am I doing the right thing telling her the dark is when the sun goes to bed which means we can go to sleep.

OP posts:
hotcrosshunny · 22/04/2014 20:27

Yes I also told DS that everything is still the same when it is dark. He didn't believe me atfirst but I let him use a torch and night light so he could check.

Macey78 · 22/04/2014 20:37

A torch sounds like a good idea.
Thank you

OP posts:
ocelot41 · 25/04/2014 19:29

Normal. My DS did this at exactly the same age. We fitted a dimmer switch and let him sleep with the light on low. Grew out of it a year later (ish). Now sleeps with o/head light off, nightlight, door open and landing light on. Having a bedside light he could control was also good as he could turn it on if scared, check there was nothing there, and turn it off again. Ikea's kids ones are good.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page