toddler hitting - come on then what do i do?

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dd2 (20ms) has started hitting her sister; mainly as a way of trying to play I think, she is quite happy and has no malice, though sometimes she does it to get a toy off her

dd1 however is disabled so can't get out of the way and ends up in tears after being beaten up by a grinning toddler

dd2 is just a bit highspirited and not super-gentle - she often whacks me while bfding just as an idle thing to do

so I don't want to come on all heavy since she's lovely & affectionate and a very happy and well behaved child but I do want her to know that that's not acceptable

suggestions pls

come on! come on! she's hitting us fgs!

Hit her back. I'M JOKING! I'M JOKING!!! Just been reading the tortuous slapping/no slapping thread.
Mine's 16 months and she's a happy slapper. She gets a firm 'No!' and is promptly removed from her brother, who is unfortunately usually the recipient. When they get very excited they do slap, don't they? One of those things, I reckon. What I do is keep a sharp eye when I suspect a slap might be coming and then do the above. She used to bite and it worked for that.
Good luck.

When ds was biting (he's 12 months) I used to say NO firmly, put him down and walk away. It took a few weeks but now he doesn't do it.

But he has now started the hitting in it's place, like your dd there's no malice (most of the time, although now and again it's when I've taken something off him so sometimes it's in temper)I'm hoping the same strategy will work.

I'll let you know!

Hey Snap JML!

DD is 20 months and again is biting / smacking with no malice just to see the reaction.
I've been saying no but showing no other reaction, taking her calmly to her naughty chair where she sits for a minute or two then I explain she hurt mummy / daddy / sister and she has to say sorry. And I have to try not to laugh as she looks so cute sat in her naughty chair swinging her legs. It does work and normally buys the remainder of the day with excellent behaviour.
But she loves it when we respond with a shout or a scream -this makles her laugh. So try not to.
Although this morning when she scrambled up and bit my nipple there was a bit of an expletive left my calm mothering figured mouth.

I agree with the firmly saying no approach. Maybe (if your child can understand?) try exaplining the reasons why it is not nice to hit etc. I normally say to my DD 2.6 yrs that it is not nice because it hurts and it makes people cry. I then ask her would she like it if Mummy/Daddy etc hit her back, to which she always replies no and is generally pretty good for the rest of the day.

We don't have naughty steps/chairs or even use the word naughty in our house. We just do lots of explaining, do the firm look, eye contact that kind of thing.

Also, just learnt from recent experience that screaming and shouting at them through anger and frustration only encourages them to do it back, which winds us up even more!

ds2 started slapping then moved onto pushing at around 22 months,he always thought it was fun as he regularly watched his olde brother and sister do it ti each other all the time.nothing worked.naughty step,star charts,removing a toy,firmly saying 'no' etc etc etc...he just kind of grew out of it.i picked him up from nursery a couple of months ago and realised it'd been at least 6 weeks since the teacher had needed a 'quiet word' with me.it could be since my dp moved in and ds2 finally had a positive male role model or maybe it was just an age thing.ds1 went through that stage as well but stopped as soon as he started nursery.

lol malteser at being cute in her naughty chair

will try this; we use time outs/ naughty step for 5-yr-old so this would make sense to older sister too

(mind you dd1 has made the naughty step her own and huffs off to it when she is not happy with us: 'I'm going to the stroppy step')

again, trying not to laugh

thanks for all advice though superpeople

diva have you googled mindgym yet?