Constant angry shouting from a 4 yo.

[kid]

My DS who is 4.5 always shouts and gets really angry at me over the slightest thing. He has always had a temper but did improve from about 3.5 years until recently.

I'm thinking of ignoring him when he shouts (maybe tell him that I'm not listening if he speaks to me like that) and then responding to him when he talks to me. Not sure if it will work but figured it is worth a try. Does anyone have any suggestions or has anyone experienced this. Please don't tell me its the hormone boost I read about that they get, there just has to be something to stop it now!!!

kid, my ds1 has been getting quite angry, particularly with dd who is 2 years younger. We are trying various strategies - any time he gets angry he goes to the naughty step, or his bedroom, and then we are trying to discuss why he is feeling so angry - the way I see it is that everybody feels rage/anger at some time, so it is a good opportunity to teach him how to deal with it - after all, it is sometimes good to be angry, but I want him to learn to be in control of the anger, rather than the rage consuming him.

When I send him to his room, he refuses to go. Even when I take him to his room, he refuses to stay in there, instead he stands at the top of the stairs and throws things down.

He said he wants a new mum, and that he won't give me any kisses and cuddles anymore. I get so frustrated with him. He can then switch from behaving like that to 'mummy, did you see that bird', it feels like a never ending battle.

When DS1 (aged 5) shouts at me I tell him I can't hear him when he's shouting. This seems to work for now, but with my DS it's just a case of his volume being set on high. He does tell me he is angry/dissapointed with me, but this can be for no reason at all, and if I'm honest, my DS is on another planet half the time.

Maybe you could try this and then discuss why he's angry. This way, you are sort of ignoring him but he knows what he needs to do to get your attention iykwim.

HTH

thanks tortoiseshell and madison, I'm willing to try different things to see what works. I'll just have to be consistent.