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3 month old can't be taken out!

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Khany10 · 14/04/2014 14:31

I'm so worried as my 3 month old has started screaming when I take her anywhere. I realised she may have decided she didn't like lying down so have tried taking her out in the car seat but it only makes a tiny bit of difference. She lasts for about 15-20 mins, starts looking uncomfortable then starts crying. The amount of times I've ended up carrying her home while pushing an empty pushchair is ridiculous. Usually by the time I get her home, she's in such a state, she falls asleep. I can't bear seeing her so upset so it's making me not want to leave the house! Any advice/suggestions welcome... What could be the reason for this?

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BertieBotts · 14/04/2014 14:32

Try a sling? Some babies just prefer to be held. I'm sure she'll grow out of it.

WanttogotoDisney · 14/04/2014 14:32

Could you try a sling?

BertieBotts · 14/04/2014 14:33

And if she doesn't like lying down, it might be worth getting her checked for reflux/silent reflux.

Pinter · 14/04/2014 14:41

Our DD really hated being flat on her back but loved the sling

She got better with the pushchair when she could sit up a bit

She didn't like the rear facing car seat & is much happier in the forward facing one we were given (although with the safety advice, had we been buying one I would have give for rear facing)

Her favour it is still the sling though

Good luck!

Artandco · 14/04/2014 14:46

I would use a sling also. Look at a soft structured one. Easy to use. Not babybjorn

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Khany10 · 14/04/2014 14:50

Thank you everyone. I've tried a sling in the house and she cried in there too. Maybe I'll persevere and get her used to it.

Thanks again!

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CrazyOldCatLady · 14/04/2014 15:46

My DD used to do that too. She seemed to get overstimulated and overtired really easily, and would only quieten down if we hung a muslin over the front of the buggy hood so she couldn't see out.

It didn't last long, thankfully, maybe a month or so.

Hellomums123 · 15/04/2014 15:03

My daughter was like that too. everytime she was laid flat, she cried. I think even at such a young age she just wanted to look around to see what was going on, so i moved the back up, not sure if all prams do this, so that she was sitting up slightly and fastened in so that she couldnt fall forward, but could still doze off to sleep. she loved it. Loved it even more when i bought a pushchair. She just wanted to see what was going on around her. Good luck. x

BertieBotts · 15/04/2014 15:58

Is your sling an upright one or a cradle hold (lying down) one?

hotcrosshunny · 15/04/2014 19:38

I found my ds would cry when overtired in the sling. What are naps like? Also make sure not too hot. They don't need a thick coat for example as you'll heat them up. Socks, yes. Hat if it's sunny.

NationMcKinley · 15/04/2014 19:41

What type of sling are you using? One of my boys was reflux-ey and another had read the Attachment Theory while he was in my uterus . Both loved the Karime sling as it's soft, cosy and secure. It also keeps their hips and spine in the right position

BB01 · 15/04/2014 19:56

Really, really sympathise with you OP. My daughter was, and still is to an extent, like this (eight months now) but definitely not as bad as she was. The sling was the only way for us for a while. I now have two I use - Beco Gemini for all-day use and a Connecta Solarweave, which I always have as emergency sling in bottom of pushchair in case she cries. Mine also was not v keen on sling inside. I had to get outside right away and start walking. She'd usually be fine after a bit whereas she'd usually start off ok in the carseat and pushchair then cry after a while. The older they get the more easily you can distract them eg with mobiles, toys and snacks. So hang on in there! My baby was also on silent reflux med for a while but never could work out if it actually helped or not. Try to avoid long car journeys if you can. Definitely see if you can get her sat up a bit in the pushchair. It's probably no worse than being in a carseat and probably fine if they're not in it sat up all day

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Khany10 · 16/04/2014 07:49

Thank you everyone. I've been lent two slings, a Closer one and a Baby Bjorn. I'm just going to take her short distances over the next few days to get her used to it. I may just have to bear some screaming! I also think I'll change my pram to pushchair and see how that works (although the guidelines say 6 months!).
The strange thing is that she's not hugely clingy and sleeps fine in her Moses basket all night. I will definitely try a muslin over her to see if that helps with overstimulation.
We will get there I'm sure. Thank you again!

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