walking and holding hands

[slightlyconfused85]

My DD is just 17 months - she's being walking since 11 months and is a confident walker.I am happy for her to walk, but have to use the buggy more than I would like to (which she doesn't like!) However, she is extremely resistant to holding my hand and this results in tantrums whenever we try to walk anywhere where it is dangerous for her to run freely.

She goes absolutely bananas if you try to use reins or the littlelife backpack and just sits on the floor screaming.

She understands quite a lot, and says quite a lot of words so every time we go anywhere I explain that she must hold my hand or I will carry her. I always follow through on this when we are out, so end up carrying her about, or putting her back in her buggy as she will not hold on. Her CM says she always holds hands with her!!!

Today, after swimming she did hold my hand to walk back to the car but she screamed and cried and tried to pull away the whole time! I just ignored her and carried on walking, but it wasn't much fun for anyone.

Has anybody cracked this or got any ideas? Does it pass with a bit more time, I realise she's only little still

I assume the Cm has other kids too? Peer pressure.
No advice though as my 22m old goes in rucksack (i think she understands if she makes too much fuss she will be in pushchair)
She does try to wriggle her hand out of mine.
Though the rucksack doesnt solve the problem i have with her trying to grab/ play with stuff in shops.
More likely to get tantrums when they are tired which i expect they were after swimming

I tell my dd2.7 that she has hold my hand or walk nicely next to me. If she doesn't walk nicely I do the same as you. She would rather not hold my hand. He has now realised this will happen every time so strolls along nicely most if the time . We always hold hand to cross the road and other similar situations.

I would use reigns and if she refuses to walk or screams and cries I would give one warning and then put her in the buggy.

Reins.

Ok this may not be the answer but I realised the other day that DD 16mo hates having her hand held tightly. She doesn't mind so much having her hand held relatively loosely. (Still protests sometimes but not nearly so much). Worth a try?

She is very young to fully understand. I would use the buggy if you must and let her walk without hand holding but stick very close to her. It is actually quite uncomfortable IMO for a tiny person to have to walk with their arm held up high so I can see why they resist.