pleas please please tell me 13m is just a Difficult Phase and it passes... !!!!

[emeraldgirl1]

DD is 13m

She has always been high maintenance at best but these days it is just getting ridiculous.

She screams blue murder when you try to wash her face/change her nappy/take her away from the toys for three seconds so you can put her cardigan on...

Proper tantrum-style too, throwing herself onto the floor and screaming.

I though the terrible 2s started when they were closer to 2!!!!

I think she is frustrated as she can't talk and wants to. A few words is not enough and though she can say Ball, Mama, Dada, Book etc, it is not helping when she really wants/doesn't want something.

I think she is also frustrated as she is close to walking but can't quite do it on her own yet.

She is teething hellishly too.

AND we have just had the 13m vaccinations so she could be feeling a bit grotty.

But please please tell me this is normal (ish??!) and that it will pass. I spend my days just being screamed at. I am trying not to walk on eggshells around her but it is hard as you don't want to provoke yet another tantrum...

Same! My DS is 15 months and walking, and it does help. But he suddenly became very tantrum-y around 12 months and I was shocked thinking where has my baby gone and who is this crazy toddler?! Time out with a bit of tv helps if things have gone beyond rational. But it might be time to think about moving nap schedules maybe. DS is much better when he wakes at 6.30 and has a 1-2 hr nap around 11/12.

Oh and we've been putting him in pull ups for a while now. Helps as he will not keep still/lie down for a nappy ever!!

I found when my eldest was just over a year old he was really difficult, now my youngest is that age he is difficult too. I does pass though. I found my eldest much easier at two than he was at one.

Thank you!!
Yes we have been deploying the TV a little more than I would like... :) Sometimes it is the ONLY way to get her on some kind of even keel...
Luckily she does nap quite well, she is still having a short morning nap and then a longer one v early pm, tiredness does NOT help so I am quite strict about making sure we stick to nap times...
Glad to hear it's not just us anyway!!!

13m was quite bad due to teething . But my 22m old still doesnt like her face being washed. Or teeth brushed.
Nappy changes have got a lot better (we needed 2 people for poops at one point)

My DD was similar at 13 months - the fuss she would make with nappy changes made it sound like we were murdering her. She improved greatly with walking and being able to communicate a bit better. She is now 17 months and is perfectly fine about having her nappy changed; she even goes and fetches the mat sometimes! She is also much sunnier in general, although tantrums over things such as holding my hand when walking (see thread above!). Teething is also miserable at that age - my DD was very difficult with her teeth. She now has 16/20 and is a completely different child.

Thanks everyone!
It's been a slightly better day, probably partly because I kept her out most of the day and there were fewer opportunities for meltdowns :)
I do think she gets a bit bored at home sometimes, she was a different child the other w/e when we spent a long time with her (older) cousins, she just watched them in utter fascination and they played with her and she loved it.
I think I need to find her a playgroup as distraction really seems to help.
Teething is just utter hell here, I know some other babies who barely seem to notice it but we have suffered through each tooth with her... clinginess, grumpiness, blood-curdling screaming and clawing at her mouth... you name it!

Yeah I've been thinking of trying a stay and play (rather than leaving him at playgroup). I think he might benefit by a change of scene but remain confident as I'll be there too. I don't think leaving them does them any good at this age. It'll definitely pass... then there'll be something else! xx

Fertilize - actually, yes, I think I meant a stay-and-play, rather than a playgroup - something where I stay, anyway. Not sure of the right terminology! In addition to everything else DD is a velcro baby and I'm ignoring friends/in-law's advice to just 'leave her and she'll get used to it'. There's plenty of time for that IMO and I just want to get her gradually used to large groups and other children before I leave her.