Um, really would love to hear whether others have had similar, any stories about whether it gets better!
DS1 is 3yo, DS2 is 12mo. I'm SAHM for a short time, and I'm struggling a bit. DS1 wants ALL of me ALL of the time. DS2 will happily entertain himself with toys for up to 30 minutes at a time, but DS1 simply will not play unless it's with me. And if I'm not playing with him he demands it in ways which cannot be ignored. He climbs all over me, tries to climb my legs, lies down on the floor to kick my legs or roll under my feet. He pulls the laundry off the drying rack as I hang it up, tries to grab things in the oven as I open it, tries to climb on me when I'm on the toilet. He says "I need a hug" and "hug HUG HUG". Basically if I'm doing anything that's not directly related to him, he will drive me nuts until I stop. Heaven forbid I should try to have a cup of tea with a friend!
He's fine if I leave him with other people - DH, GP, a childminder from time to time, they always say how lovely he is. And he is lovely! Very sweet, singing and chatting and cheerful all day long! Just, with me, he can't tolerate me doing something else.
It's great that he asks for hugs using his words, and demands attention by kicking me not his brother. I feel terribly terribly guilty that I don't have the patience to just give him the attention he wants and deal with him calmly and pragmatically when I need to do housework. Obviously I try, but I do end up shouting at him quite often, because I just need to get stuff done or I just can't handle the 100% intensity of it. And I get so arsing bored a little weary of playing the shopping game endlessly.
Sorry for the long post, didn't mean it to be that long, would really love any tips from anyone who has a similar sort of a situation.