starting potty training again - give me reassurance!

[miranda2]

hi everyone. I started training ds just before Christmas, but gave up after 2 weeks as he still just poohed in his pants and ignored it, and seemed to have no awareness that he was about to wee.
Suddenly flipped yesterday morning as he lay (big 2y8m lump of a boy) on the bathroom floor and demanded a 'training nappy' (goodness knows where he got the phrase from, they are just normal nappies!). Told him he was a big boy now and i expected him to go in the potty or loo, he didn't need nappies like a baby anymore. Packed him off to nursery and told them to train him!!!
Four accidents at nursery yesterday (they potted him every half hour), then poohed himself in the evening (after half an hour of sitting on the potty with me trying to get him to pooh - grr).
Hav packed him off to nursery again today with big bag of changes of clothes.
The thing that annoys me and i think made me flip into just doing it, is that if he does decide to go on the potty or loo, ever since training him last time he now demands a sweet or sticker for producing anything! I refuse to keep buying nappies for a child that can sit on the loo when he chooses to and demand a sweet - it isn't meant to be somehting he does when he fancies a sweet, ffs!! I know, i know , i shouldn't have bribed him last time...
Really don't want to stop trying this time! He seems so big now (lots of my friends have just had babies....). Any tips/reassurance?

DS was nearly 3 when we went through this rigmarole. Found a sticker chart helped (indeed I find it helps with most things!). Initially, every time he did a wee in the potty / toilet he got a sticker on the chart and a chocolate button (like having a dog isn't it!). Poos earned him two stickers and two buttons. When the sticker chart was full (first one had about 15 boxes on it and I just added more and more boxes each time), he got a trip to the toy shop to choose a (cheap) prize! Now I use sticker charts all the time, with lines for eg eating tea all up, being nice to brother all day, doing his exercises (has physio which he hates) etc etc. Worked for us, but as you surely know by now, the little folk are all different! Reassure yourself safe in the knowledge that yours will get there - I'm sure you don't know any 4 year olds still in nappies (night nappies don't count!). Good luck!

Nearly gave up over the weekend, but persevered in the knowledge I could hand back to nursery on Monday morning! Definitely getting better - down to c.3 accidents a day... he still needs reminding, but a couple of times has said himself that he needs it so I think we are heading slowly in the right direction.

we have given up again for a while - following a weeing incident on daddies new chair whilst going with no nappy on ! He did come and tell me that it was wet though (Didn't cut much ice with dh !). I am convinced ds doesn't recognise the physical sensation yet.