Is it possible to have part time PND?

[Chickz]

I feel so down and miserable on Monday to Friday looking after a crying miserable baby who is never happy. I miss my old life and the freedom that I had. I think I may have PND albeit a mild form.
However on the weekends when DH is home I feel good, feel I can deal with baby more. And he is so hands on that it gives me a good break from DD. I feel energised and relaxed.
So do you think I could have PND during the week but it disappears at weekends?

No, it just becomes the background music in your life because someone is taking some of the pressure off you. It doesn't appear and disappear.
If your DH was away for the weekend, would you still feel energised and relaxed?
Babies are hard work for a lot of reasons, what do you do during the week? Do you get out for a walk with the baby, to the shops, see other people, visit baby groups? Anything that distracts both of you from the intensity of the 1:1?
Who can you talk to about how you feel, and who might help out with ideas and practical support?

Thanks for your reply. We do get out. I force myself. Drs appt made so I think that's a step in the right direction.

I get good sleep as dd wakes only once or twice in night. I do find it a bit hard getting to sleep after that but it's not too bad.
I have a bit of adult contact, we go to baby groups and swimming around 3/4 times a week.
DH says he can see I've been down for a while and has encouraged me to go to dr. DH is amazing and really supportive. Don't know where id be without him.

Have you thought about nursery/cm? Good luck with the dr appt but I thought id mention it. Had no family help and found a few nursery sessions a week for some quiet time helped a lot.

I guess it's the coat issue. That and my dd is super clingy that I fear she would just cry the whole time. She's so min hard work. I'm sure I wouldn't have PND if she was a n easy going placid baby

• cost issue not coat!

Is there an option of returning to work say 2 days a week and affording childcare 3 days a week? Not sure how old dd is. Otherwise, can dh get any more flexibility to work a shorter day on a Wednesday say, so you get a mid week break that day? Try and figure out what might help in terms of maybe getting out a night a week to an activity perhaps? Personally although I adore dd, I found the baby phase lonely, boring and scary. Not everyone has to love it, it's enough to love the dc and get through it.

Thank you Gen35. DH is currently asking permission to do one day work from home. Looks like its going to get agreed. So that is a massive help. And I have a night out tomorrow withy girlie friends so looking forward to that.

Glad to hear that, things like that to look forward to made all the difference to me. Hope you start to feel better soon!

Hi Chickz, posted on one of your other threads and wondered how you were doing. I feel exactly like you - I love the weekends, like you feel can manage and enjoy DD more as DH is there to help out. Mon to Fri are hard and slow going sometimes. You can feel pretty isolated and depressed with a grizzly baby - come on here and whinge about, makes me feel better haha! At least the weather is improving, its helped my mood a lot, what about you? Are you doing anything for easter or may bank hols with DD and DH you can look forward to?

Hi islingtongirl! Ah you noticed my other depressing posts! The weather has helped today. And I got some anti depressants from the Drs today. I actually burst into tears at my appointment. Felt really embarrassed but my DH said it was good that all the emotions came out. I hope I feel much better in a couple of weeks. We have a couple of lovely things planned over Easter. I hope DD behaves.

They have a habit of surprising you with lovely behaviour just when you feel at the end of your tether I find! I think your DH is right, good to get emotions out so dr knows how you really feel. Hope things start to feel better soon, am sure they will - you def sound a bit more positive!