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Tantrums

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Blondey1891 · 22/03/2014 16:45

Please advise? We are currently on tantrum no 15 of the day, he is almost 2years old, doesn't really speak much but has a very good understanding!! He is stropping over anything and everything, kicking scream smacking, nothing is working.

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joanna1985 · 22/03/2014 17:50

I have the same problem with my 18mo who also isn't really talking but understands everything. I just ignore them that's what my midwive advised and its actually helping a bit. He will strop about and go nuts and then eventually come over for a hug. It's so frustrating though!

girliefriend · 22/03/2014 18:01

Is he tired?

Dd was a paddy thrower and tiredness made them much worse, however she also had quite severe glue ear. Have you had his hearing checked?

Also I found having routines and rituals in place helped in terms that dd know what to expect and what happens next iyswim?

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Blondey1891 · 22/03/2014 18:13

We have quite a strict routine, not sure about the ear, did get him checked at the GP the other day and she said one ear was very waxy!!

I don't know what to do with him, I'm exhausted?!! Tried ignoring, putting him in his room, distraction. I don't know xx

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TheGreatHunt · 22/03/2014 18:46

Mine is like this and it is when she is tired or hungry. Getting down to her level, staying calm and telling her to come to me for a cuddle calms her down. It doesn't mean I give in - well it depends what it is and whether the battle is worth it - but I can see that she is completely overwhelmed by emotion and cannot sort herself out.

Judyandherdreamofhorses · 22/03/2014 19:46

Harvey Karp 'The Happiest Toddler on the Block' is great, I you're not too exhausted to read it!

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Blondey1891 · 23/03/2014 08:03

I'm going to order it from amazon

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Judyandherdreamofhorses · 23/03/2014 08:09

Great, it's a bit 'American' in tone (not that that's a bad thing!) and I find it really works IF I can find the strength to do it.

Massive 20 month old tantrum yesterday in a museum that he just didn't want to leave. I gritted my teeth and turned away from all the stares and followed the advice in the book, leading to a happy toddler back in his pushchair.

Judyandherdreamofhorses · 23/03/2014 08:10

I mean, if you build an interactive exhibit in the form of a huge walk in structure made of old books, you must expect small children to want in stay in it forever!

PolkaDott1 · 23/03/2014 09:00

DS is 5 now and this always worked...
Tantrum starts so I would get down to his level and say his name very gently whilst making eye contact and then tell him I love you. It would confuse him a bit then totally diffuse what he was panicking over as he is very loving and wanted to respond to that first. After a big hug and declarations of love on both sides it would give him the breather he needed then we could sort out what his tantrum was all about. Try it.

joanna1985 · 24/03/2014 10:06

The worst omes are the middle of the night, my ds had 2 last night...along with a newborn feeding every 3hours.i.am.shattered

He was sleeping well there too i think his teeth must be playing up. Caved in and brought him into my bed, totally stupid i know

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