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dd3 is incrediably unsettled with Peter being home

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misdee · 10/08/2006 22:14

help!!

she has gone from a lovely strong mided little girl into an incredably tantrummy head strong girl, who is refusing to sleep, overnight!

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stitch · 10/08/2006 22:16

congratulations on having your dh home misdee.

your dd is probly going through a bit of the feelings babies get when a new sibling comes along.
hope peter is coping well.

Jimjams2 · 10/08/2006 22:18

oh misdee it must be very strange for her. It will sort itself out.
Are dd1 and dd2 pleased? Glad he's home

suejonez · 10/08/2006 22:18

you were expecting her to struggle with it, weren't you? She so used to having you to herself I suppose. Good idea of stitch - treat it like you would if there was a nwe baby in the house.

suejonez · 10/08/2006 22:18

how are you coping otherwise?

UrsulatheSeawitch · 10/08/2006 22:19

Aw, misdee, tough for you all but it was bound to upset her, she's used to just you; she needs a bit of time to adjust to Peter being home.

Not sure what to suggest just now though - if you get her up would it set a precedent? OTOH if you leave her yelling it will disturb the others...could you let her stay up for a bit and then try again to put her to bed?

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misdee · 10/08/2006 22:20

its been a lovely day, albeit strange as have had district nurse, co-ag nurse and 2 carers in.

dd3 is still up and screaming

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Jimjams2 · 10/08/2006 22:22

oh god misdee poor you. Has she gone into overtired mode? does she still bfeed/have a bottle? Would quick bath and feed relax her again?

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misdee · 10/08/2006 22:23

still b/f. and she has just put herself back on and has stopped screaming.

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Miaou · 10/08/2006 22:23

It's bound to take her a while to settle down misdee . I think the analogy of a new baby is an apt one tbh - she is old enough to see all the fuss and attention that Peter is getting and young enough to not understand why he is there and not in hospital! Can you use any "new baby" tactics - eg a present "from" Peter to say thankyou for letting him "stay"? A special toy-bag that comes out at times when he needs your full attention?

And a warm welcome home to Peter too

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misdee · 10/08/2006 22:26

yes, goo idea. it is going to be strange for her. yes, likening it to new baby is a good one

she pushed herself inbetween me and peter today when we were on the sofa.

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misdee · 10/08/2006 22:40

finally got her to sleep, 2hours past her bedtime. poor little love. she has had to deal with being hauled back and forth to harefield all her life, then peter comes to live here, and we have heaps of strange people coming and going.

i told dd2 today that daddy isnt going back to hospital untill he gets a transplant, you should've seen her little face lit up. she gave me and peter and hug (but not kisses cos they are yukky lol), and kinda scrunched herself up in excitment.

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UrsulatheSeawitch · 10/08/2006 22:45

You can tell from those pictures of dd2 with Peter on your blog how much he means to her. So glad he is home with you, misdee, and hoping the transplant will happen very soon.

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misdee · 11/08/2006 08:33

i am bloomin shattered. dd3 screamed a lot during the night. then the other 2 have woken up hyper as anything.

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mummyhill · 11/08/2006 08:38

Have a hug Misdee. It will all settle down eventualy. Sending thoughts and prayers to help you remain strong through this.

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misdee · 11/08/2006 08:40

i'm going to need more than strength. this is madness. district curse is due in the next 2 hours(between 9-11am), peter still in bed, i look a wreak and dd1+2 are boucing about.

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mummyhill · 11/08/2006 09:09

Are they dressed? Whats the weather like? Can you sling them out in the garden for a bit to give yourself a bit of breathing space. How's dd3 & peter this morning.

I know we keep on saying it but it will settle down eventually they are just excited at having peter home. DD3 is bound to find it confusing and be a bit unsteeled for a bit. It can't be easy to cope with all of this but you are such a strong woman. When I look at all you have had to cope with and how strong you have been even in the times when you didn't feel you were coping that well. I have a huge amount of admiration for you.

DollyP · 11/08/2006 19:24

Hope your day has been ok misdee. How are the DDs? hope DD3 more settled and doesn't give you a load of grief going to be this evening.

Sending hugs to you all.

suejonez · 12/08/2006 16:24

lol at "district curse" - deliberate or accidental i wonder....

sallystrawberry · 12/08/2006 16:29

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Elibean · 12/08/2006 17:29

Wow, where have I been?!? First, I'm so glad Peter is home Misdee...and second, I'm sorry for all the stress of the transition. I can only imagine how huge that must be, after all this time (not to mention all the equipment). I hope things start to feel more settled soon, for all of you. xxx

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