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turning on the waterworks..............................

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stoppinattwo · 07/08/2006 22:22

Dont know if im being cynical but i firmly believe that my DS (7) is turning on the tears at the drop of a hat.

ive only got to look at him the wrong way and he bursts into tears, if someone tells on him he cries. He knows that if anything is going to get my attention its him crying as he doesnt often do it...........til now (well last couple of weeks)

i wold hate to think its beacuse i give him a particularly hard time, both DC's have quite strict boundaries etc etc but then i can be a big softie with them too. But i would equally hate to think that he was crying wolf iyswim. Because its wearing thin now. I dont want to reach a point where im saying FGS what are you crying about now, because one day it could be something really serious. I just cant tell the difference. i dont think he's stressed by anything but then if i knew he was i wouldnt be having this conversation, how do you know if your child is stressed by something or they are just pushing buttons for a reaction. I would never forgive myself if i though he was crying wolf when there actually was a problem which i had failed to notice or I was being too harsh and too strict with him. I have asked him if there are thngs bothering him and we do talk a lot about how we feel. He says sometimes i shout too much, I dont know what to do about that, how much shouting is too much. Sorry to ramble, anyone know where im coming from?

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tortoise · 07/08/2006 22:26

No ideas but pmsl at turning on the water works.My dad used to say that to me!

WideWebWitch · 07/08/2006 22:28

I think it's attention seeking. Could you try catching him being good and giving him attention then? My 8.5yo ds does this things of constantly 'hurting' himself sometimes and I think it's a similar thing, it's when he thinks his sister is gettign too much attention and he wants some imo.

Frizbe · 07/08/2006 22:30

Hmmm we use intuition and the Peter and the Wolf story to try and bat this one down, along with ignoring it if we think the kids are trying it on....its a tough call really....

stoppinattwo · 07/08/2006 22:30

It just hurts me when he cries, I hate to think i dont believe him, and that he is actually tring it on. Hes never been a crier

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gothicmama · 07/08/2006 22:32

have replied on the other thread

stoppinattwo · 07/08/2006 22:41

got it thanks GM

WWW I hope it is attention seeking and not him being stressed out. I can deal with attention seeking, its just hes got all the way to 7 and never been like that (his sister is 4) I dont know why all of a sudden he would start acting like that. I just feel like ive got a stressed out little boy and dont know what to do?

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dreamteamgirl · 07/08/2006 23:03

Have you had a conversation with him about why he seems sadder than normal at the moment?

is it just since the school holidays started (thats baout 2 weeks right?) Maybe he is worried about going back to school, or changing class or something and its coming out as this

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