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i have tried and failed

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muma3 · 07/08/2006 18:28

please can i have different examples of bedtime routines. i am very desperate now. dd3 is 14 months and is being a shit at going to sleep . i have tried everything i can think of and i am not scared of persievering(sp?) but im struggling . she hates her cot all of a sudden and just wants to play when i put her to bed. she was awake 2 nights ago until 2.20am . she hadnt slept in day either .

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muma3 · 07/08/2006 18:33

anyone?

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juuule · 07/08/2006 18:37

Will she fall asleep on the settee? What time does she wake up in the morning?

SittingBull · 07/08/2006 18:38

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muma3 · 07/08/2006 18:43

she has been sleeping til 9am in morns as she hasnt beeen going to bed til late. she has her breakfast and potters about with toys etc. we go out for a few hours everyday. have lunch whever we are . go home read stories ,play with sisters, sometimes (as she likes the garden)she will play in bath for a while . i have tried the whole bath bottle quiet time bed routine but that doesnt work . i brought the lavender baby bath too . she has always been a good sleeper and it started for no apparent reason . just is very defient and refuses to go to bed . she will get very moody if left to go to sleep downstairs, thats why i try to put her down at same time each night . i have been leaving it longer each day to see if maybe she doesnt need so much sleep

im confused as to what im doing wrong?

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SittingBull · 07/08/2006 18:45

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FrayedKnot · 07/08/2006 18:46

What does she do if you put her in her cot, turn out the light and leave her (at her normal bedtime), with a couple of toys in the cot?

2.20am sounds like a complete nightmare, but is she just getting overtired?

Is she going through some sort of milestone like teeth or walking?

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muma3 · 07/08/2006 19:03

her routine was
awake at 7.30
nap from 11am til 2pm
bed at 7.30

ill try to put her down at 8pm and she will scream endlessly. hysterical and like she is scared iykwim doesnt want to be left on her own but doesnt settle if we are in the room either.
i had her in our room the other night and she just didnt want to sleep was giggling whilst jumping on daddies head , but she is groggy like tired with or without nap .

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alexw · 07/08/2006 19:33

We do up at 8ish. Sleep from 12.30-2.30 and bed at 6.45. Even if dd doesn't seem tired at 12.30 she still goes into the cot (and always sleeps). One thing that mightbe worth trying though is reducing the amount of daytime sleep (say to 2 hours max) and try going to bed a bit earlier. We have found that sleep breeds sleep so good sleep in the day seems to lead to good nights too. Another thing, have you tried milk say at about 6 followed by bath and then bed?? Milk after bath could be restimulating dd?? HTH...

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muma3 · 07/08/2006 19:36

thanks yes it does help i will try to give milk before bed but it seem to sttle her to have bottle with her iyswim. she isnt sleeping in day much anymore the longest in a week is 45mins one day . she just is refusing to sleep at all and its like she knows that when she gets put down it means sleep and then screams

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muma3 · 07/08/2006 19:36

before bath *

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youknowwhat · 07/08/2006 20:19

She might be too tired to manage to go to sleep.
If she is like DS1, she will not be happy to go for a nap during the day BUT it doesn't mean that she doesn't need it...
Because DS1 is so willfull, I have had a strict routine which includes a nap at lunch time and going to sleep at the same during the day. I have just stuck to my gums and made him sleep in the aft whether he liked it or not. I found that the less he was sleepimg during the day, the less well he was going to sleep in the evening (sounds like your dd). In occasion, I actually had to put him in the car so that he could fall asleep, sleep for a bit (~30min) before moving him back in the cot. Since then, I am very very carefull that he has a decent nap....
Also try to put her in bed earlier as soon as you see that she is tired so that she doesn't have time to get overtired.
Good luck! It is hard...

aviatrix · 07/08/2006 20:32

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dreamteamgirl · 07/08/2006 22:42

Hiya
I would agree with aviatrix and try and reset her.

Get her up at 7.30 regardless of how late she was up, and put her down for a nap at lunch. My DS (17 months) has a nap 1-3 at nursery, but at home it is nearer 12.-2

Then do you bedtime routine thing

We do tea, a drop of milk, (bath is currently off due to bath phobia but thats another post) cuddles, dress for bed, a few books and puzzles (nothing electronic or noisy or exciting) then into bed with a bottle.

It does sound like she is a bit sleep deprived :-(

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muma3 · 08/08/2006 11:13

thanks all , she went to sleep at 8 last noght and only woke at 2 when dp got in she then got in my bed and went to sleep about 3.15am snd woke at 9am .

she has just started walking only last 2 weeks .

will take it all on board and hopefully can turn things around
will let you know how i get on and thanks x

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dreamteamgirl · 08/08/2006 20:54

Well it sounds like a much better night then! well done :-)

lizziemun · 09/08/2006 07:49

glad you had a better night i know what its like to have a child who doesn't sleep my dd didn't sleep through the night untill she was about 20mths waking once in the night.

i also found that if she didn't sleep during the day she wouldn't sleep at night waking every hour It was if she was to tired to sleep so now we do this.

up between 6.30 - 7.00am

afternoon sleep 12.30 to 2pm

bedtime routine starts at 5pm when dd has her tea and i put all noisy exciting toy away and she is only allowed quite toys. (books, Puzzles etc)

Bath 6-6.15pm

Story downstairs with daddy

6.30-6.45 upstairs to bed. She has decided that she doesn't want milk anymore.

i think that the hardest thing is to do the same thing for a week so dc gets into the new routine and still do what you need to do.

i hope this helps and you are soon having a good nights sleep

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