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The Dummy

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georgied · 07/08/2006 16:45

Does anyone have any advice on how to get rid of this thing, my daughter will be 4 in Dec and wants it all the time when we are home, its becoming a constant feature on her face, she will allow it to be taken away when going out but will almost immediately ask for it as soon as we return

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PrettyCandles · 07/08/2006 16:47

Bribery. Works for most things at this age.

Start off with a star chart - one star for each set period of time that she does without it, with the promise of a reward when she has achieved X number of stars. Then extend it - the reward coming after a full week of continuous stars. Eventually the big finale - something she really wants, whether it's a particular outing or toy etc, when she finally gets rid of the dummy forever.

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georgied · 07/08/2006 17:26

Good ideas, but I don't mind her having it at night as its a soother I just wish I could find a way to almost stop her thinking about it during the day (impossible I suppose).

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dreamteamgirl · 07/08/2006 22:57

Why not just to the daily bribery then?

If she can get to 9am 1 star, to 10 am another etc, and 10 stars get a silly treat (but valuable) to her.

then 30 stars a magazine or something. No reason to do it all in one go if you dont want to

colditz · 07/08/2006 23:21

Tie it to the bed. Dummy stays upstrairs, yes darling you may have your dummy, off you go!

she will get very bored of lying on the bed to have it.

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ChiTownLady · 08/08/2006 03:19

My ds (3) was getting into the habit of wanting it all day as we went through a fairly difficult transition overseas so for about 5 mnths had it pretty when he wanted ( apart from when he was at nirsery and i carried it around with me) - i have to say I went cold turkey on him once we had settled in the US during day and only allowed him to have it after bath at night until brekkie in the morning.Ihid it from him at other times and put it into a difficult place for me to get to..(a really high cupboard) in case I got desperate.
he is now really good with it and I just maintain the mantra.."its just for sleeptime" he doesnt ask for it at othertimes now. it took at tops 2 days to stop the whinng and we maybe had tears twice over that specific issue - I di a lot of distractiona dn bribery with him at other times
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georgied · 11/08/2006 10:49

Success, with the days so far, the dummy fairy comes & takes it in the morning and brings it back when she has her nightie on and is ready for bed. It appears by magic under her pillow, she is so happy when she finds it, its like christmas every day! However we do have a pretty bad time between about 5 and 7 but I think its worth it. I have no idea how I would tackle the nights. My son gave it up at night when the dentist told him it would ruin his teeth, my daughter however is not so easily fooled and is far more stubborn. Wish me luck!

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