We are ignoring DD hitting and slapping us - is this the right thing?

[Mandymoo]

Cos it kind of feels as if we're letting her get away with it but at the same time she's not doing it as often as she's not getting the attention she got when we made her go up to her room and the subsequent tantrums etc.

Any advice/suggestions greatly appreciated X

Bad behaviour in genral we ignor but violent behaviour DS get's 2 mins on the naughty chair as its not something that i feel can be ignored. Just my opinion though

how old is she ?

Depends on how old she is. From about 18mos we said very firmly to dd, 'no hitting, you go outside' and put her in the hall for 1 minute if she did it. We do the same now she's 2.8. So fast retribution, very calmly and she'll get the message imo. And praise her when she's good and cuddles/does other nice stuff.

dd did this for a while, and when she hit or kicked I turned my back on her. She was about 2 1/2 and it lasted 3 days....then she gave up

Ds3 is 23 months. He LOVES cuddles and alwyas likes to be picked up - if he slaps or hits me I say a firm 'NO' and I put him straight down which is enough to make him realise I don't like it.

Personally I would only ignore 'low-level' bad behaviour like whining, etc.

Hitting and slapping adults is IMO unacceptable (or unasseptable?).

I warn my ds's and then if they do it again, they spend a few minutes in the hall away from everything, and then apologise.

calista, have you been watching supernanny by any chance??

I'm sorry but I have to agree with other posters here, when DS (21 months) hits or slaps we say very firmly 'you do not hit' and put him on the bottom step and turn our backs for a minute. This is partly because if he hit at nursery he could be asked to leave and we can't risk that.

I had a problem recently though which made him hit more and took a few days to get back to 'normal' - a friend of mine came over and brought her little girl (23 months). She hit DS a few times and didn't get told off so he obviously thought 'well if she can do it so can I'. I now feel obligated to tell a child off if s/he its my DS because of the message it sends to him - even though it might make me unpopular with other parents.

DD is 3.5 yrs so i think she is old enough now to realise that hitting is wrong - thanks for the suggestions X